"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't play games with them and they won't play games with you

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from 4 years after being on this forum.. well ive stopped posting and reading stuff here for over a year now at least not as much as back then, i just noticed that playing games with women in the first place will jus cause confusion.

Most of the guys in the real world dont do these "PUA" wannab acting crap.

I used to try it, and it wasn't just me... EVEN if i had completely programmed myself to be IT.

I'd play games with them and theyd play games with me and sometimes it seems like when they find out that you werent being yourself the whole time, they would loose interest in you and you'll just feel it. Sometimes, theyll just give up on your cause you play too much of these games.

Sure, teasing, some sense of humor are qualities great to have but playing games is sounding alot less manly to me at least these days.

Example of playing games would be going hot and cold on a chick.

The naturals in the real world go hot and cold on a chick because they really DO have other chicks as options, they really DO get busy with other activities in their lives which end up sounding like they are playing games when theyre really not. Their reasons are legit.

Sure, you need to have GAME still.. not calling/texting too much and not answering to every call.

But the real game out of you comes out when you have legit reasons... when you really ARE busy.. when you really HAVE options, when you really dont GIVE A DAMN about the outcome



Sure, for those of you starting at level zero who do not have options, who arent busy can fake it... but since nothing LEGIT has happend to you yet, you will eventually come out of the closet and show the chick that "HEY, I DO GIVE A DAMN and though i try not to look/act like I give a damn"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Interesting post. I agree with you in some aspect since I'm a firm believer of NOT faking it till you make it.

But I think trying and wanting to be a PUA is far different than actually trying to just better yourself in general and congruently becoming just a fun guy that people like to be around.
 
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