"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Don't over use dj tips

The Sperminator

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Heres a blog from a girl on myspace. Intersting, it seems like girls are starting to figure out the pick up artists now. These techniques do work I know for a fact but when you overdo it or just use tricks the whole time your game won't work.


"I've used to always be attracted to a guy with game. Guys with what I thought was natural charisma who were absolutely confident and were extremely witty. I only recently learned about a book called "The Game" by one of my favorite
authors Neil Strauss. This book basically talks about the underground society of "pick up artists...from whats called the "seduction community".

The game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists

Also there is a show on VH1 called "The Pickup Artist" which stars one of the famous pick up artists from the community.

Mystery from the VH1 show: The Pick Up Artist

Basically guys who spent most of their free time trying to figure out how to learn the skills to pick up on and sleep with women. It kind of changed my idea that charisma was something that you are simply born with.

Basically these guys were learning that it was possible to create natural charisma to pick up girls. These were mostly nerdy guys who couldnt get a date and definitely couldnt get laid BUT after learning these techniques they were easily picking up on girls, and not just any girls, they were claiming to have picked up on really hot girls, 8s, 9s, and 10s.

There are so many concepts, but one of the concepts ws "peacocking". "Peacocking" basically involves wearing outlandish clothes so you are the most unusual personal in the room, for example, guys with mohawks, or wearing black nail polish, or wearing a purple jacket shiny jacket. Something sometimes totally weird and out of the ordinary and sometimes ridiculous.

Another technique was to "neg" a girl which basically means you give a girl a backhanded compliment like "you look really good, have you lost some weight"? or Nice nails. Are they real?" The motivation behind the insult is to lower the girl's self-esteem so she feels subconsciously that she has to seek validation from the person who subtly insulted her.

It was so funny because I had never met a guy like this before and right after I finished reading the book I went out to dinner with a guy who was TOTALLY RUNNING GAME ON ME! I met him through a friend and he was totally not the kind of guy that I would usually go out with but he was very witty and confident and pretty much told me to give me his number (not in a rude way but in a confident way). He was extremely persistent (which I like--guys should pursue a girl, not the other way around!)


He came to pick me up and he was wearing his hair in an unusual style. He had his hair normal when I met him, but this time it was slicked back immense amounts of gel, with some height on the top and a ponytail. It was so strange I cant even describe it!!! He was also wearing a silver brocade jacket--mind you this is summertime--enough said.... He was obviously peacocking.

I was really uncomfortable walking into the restaurant. I dont really like to blatantly cry for attention but this guy obviously wanted to be seen and although I tried to go choose a booth in a corner, he chose a booth which was in view of
everyone in the restaurant. However He was easy to talk to during dinner and very witty and things were good for about 15 minutes. But somewhere through dinner things started to wear thin. He really was trying very hard to be slick and after all I got tired of the constantly wittiness and just wanted a normal converation. Then somewhere in the middle of the conversation he used the "negging" technique on me! He said "wow your hair is nice, is it real?" which is an exact quote from the book "The Game". Anyways at this point it was obvious that he was a pick up artist or at least a wannabe pick up artist. Anyhow, I never returned his calls after the date, Although he was charming when I first spoke to him, after an extended period of talking he just came off as really creepy...BUT I did go out on a date with him so the pick up artist techniques do work to a certain extent!~"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hmm very interesting. I wonder what she thinks about "nerdy guys" learning how to attract attractive girls. Do you have a link to her blog?
 

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She only found out because that guy was relying on canned routines.

He clearly hadn't internalized the DJ mindset and had no gut instinct intuition telling him she wanted the conversation changed to normal talk.

Thats the difference between PUA and DJ a lot of the time.

PUA's are generally all about the canned routines whereas the DJ really becomes the confidant ladies man.
 

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That's why it's important to be both a DJ and a PUA. On the date he ran out of material and didn't know how to continue because other than his routines he didn't have anything else to offer to the girl because he stopped progressing as a person and didn't have good social skills.
 

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Heres the actually blog. http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=73635&blogID=307160214

Well I believe that canned material is stupid. Maybe just to start the conversation but now and days girls might of heard of that line. I think a lot of tricks do work but if you over use it or don't put your own personality into your game you are screwed. I mean negging and kino all the time aren't going to work if thats all you got. Not only that but no girl wants a guy who just negs her constantly. Should only be used sparringly.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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KontrollerX said:
She only found out because that guy was relying on canned routines.

He clearly hadn't internalized the DJ mindset and had no gut instinct intuition telling him she wanted the conversation changed to normal talk.

Thats the difference between PUA and DJ a lot of the time.

PUA's are generally all about the canned routines whereas the DJ really becomes the confidant ladies man.
totally:rockon:
 
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