"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Don't Lose Her Interest After Getting Her Number

lYlasTer

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Ever had a situation where you got the girl’s phone number, but you didn’t get a date after that? When you called her up she didn’t sound interested in talking to you so you didn’t bother asking her out. What’s going on here, it dosen’t make sense since you got her number right?

It all lies in the concept of interest level. Her never in you never “stays still”, it’s either increasing or decreasing. While she was interested when you first met her, the interest level could have gone down by the time you call her. The secret to beating this isn’t to call her earlier when you’re fresh on her mind, that just makes you look desperate.

A lot of things could’ve happened. She could’ve met another guy during that time or she was just being polite by giving you her number. **** happens, but there are things you can do to increase your success.

Suggest a Date When You First Meet Her


When you get her phone number, she dosen’t know what to expect. Her interest level will lower because she’s not thinking about you. What you can do is suggest an activity together when you first meet her.

Me: I cooked the most delicious Ziti last night, my mom would be so proud of me

Her: Ohh I love Ziti! Can you cook some for me?

Me: Maybe, it depends on what you’ll do for me! Give me your number, we can get together this weekend

After you get her number, she’ll be thinking about the event and anticipating when you’re going to call because she has a clear image in her head of the event.

Go on an Instant Date

Who says you have to get her number, wait a few days, call for date, wait a few days again, THEN go on a date?

Skip all that and go on a date when you first ask her out if the timing’s right. For instance if you meet her at a coffee shop, just casually ask her what her plans are for the day and suggest something better.

Me: What are you up to the rest of the day?

Her: I don’t know, I haven’t planned anything special

Me: I just got a new place and gotta do some furniture shopping. Wanna come to IKEA and give me a female perspective. You know straight guys aren’t good with this kinda stuff.

Another idea is if you meet her at a club or party. Me and my boys always go out and eat afterwards at like 3 in the morning. The night’s still young, why not invite her along? By the time you’re done it’ll be around 5am, you can suggest that it’s easier if she comes back to your place to spend the night ;)

The benefits of an “instant date”

* More time to build interest/attraction
* Going to different places when you first meet will make her feel like she’s known you longer
* There are no “expectations” as opposed to a traditional date. Since it’ll be more like hanging out, she’ll lower her guard and be more susceptible to your charm!

A phone number is a terrible thing to waste, please ensure you get dates out of it!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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lYlasTer said:
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Who says you have to get her number, wait a few days, call for date, wait a few days again, THEN go on a date?...
Good stuff, but it sounds eerily familiar....
 

benjiprice

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lYlasTer said:
What’s going on here, it dosen’t make sense since you got her number right?
Uh actually, it makes a lot of sense. As so much literature on the topic states: "Girls will give their phone number to just about anyone". Regardless of the impression you caused on her, it's very probable that you'll get the number. If you don't get the date you didn't spark interest when you got it or you lost it on the phone, and/or she's just got other things going on in her life. But we all expect that a lot of numbers aren't going to result in a date.

Aside from that, good suggestions. Insta-dates are great cus you just keep things flowing, instead of having to reset everything.
 

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bah, whatever. If she's the type that will flake just because I wait a day or two to call her, I'd rather just stay away.
 

MagnuM

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Obsidian said:
bah, whatever. If she's the type that will flake just because I wait a day or two to call her, I'd rather just stay away.
+1. I totally agree.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ace of Flames

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Everything after "Go on an Instant Date" is truth.

Before that, all I can say is duh, and dismiss it immediately.
 
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