"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't let yourself get foodie called.

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This isn't recent. It's been going on for years.
Below are articles from 2011, 2017, and 2019 about "foodie call" dating.




You do drinks or coffee. Modern women are barely worth that even more often than not. Pull or next.
Alcohol drinks only. Though a lot of women probably date for the free alcoholic drinks too. Plenty of women have gone on drinks dates with me and then ghosted. Getting ghosted after a drinks date stinks but slightly better than getting ghosting after an expensive dinner.

We need to collectively grow a spine as men and have the courage to walk away.
Yes

I have an easy rule.

Never pay dinner for a girl you never had sex before.
I started enforcing a "no dinner dates in restaurants prior to sex" rule in the early 2010s.

If you host a home dinner date, you're paying the groceries to host a home dinner date though. Do you do home dinner dates?

I might be willing to do an early stage dinner date if the date was arranged through a strong social circle connection. That doesn't typically happen for me because I've never had a viable social circle capable of arranging dates for me. Dinner dates in restaurants are something I won't do prior to sex when I've arranged a date with someone via cold approach or some technological means.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If you host a home dinner date, you're paying the groceries to host a home dinner date though. Do you do home dinner dates?

I might be willing to do an early stage dinner date if the date was arranged through a strong social circle connection. That doesn't typically happen for me because I've never had a viable social circle capable of arranging dates for me. Dinner dates in restaurants are something I won't do prior to sex when I've arranged a date with someone via cold approach or some technological means.
I used to invite girls to nightclubs/bars but saying we will start drinking at my place with some friends first. It's a perfect excuse for the girl to visit your place and know more about you and to check your place since she knows she might visit it later. They always arrive an hour later just to make sure she's not going to be alone with you. When they text, I always reply "my friends arrived and we're having some drinks". So no, I don't recommend dinner at your place initially..

I like to cook if it is the second or third date. It's a good way to make her feel "at home" and for you to show some cooking skills. Buying groceries is way cheaper than going to a restaurant so you can buy some nice ingredients (nice cuts of beefs) and even prepare some fancy dessert. A good bottle of wine you can get for $15.
 
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