"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't know what I want in life

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Finish school but put yourself out there. Be curious. Try diff things. Finish degree IF you are in STEM nothing cultural Marxist or rubbish you could learn at your public library. Anything science, medicine, engineering, technology etc.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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There is no purpose in life, bro. Shysters will tell you that there is, but they're trying to sell you something.

The never-ending chase for happiness is an absurdity of modernism. It's a hole that you'll get lost in.

You need money to live. Civil engineering is one of the few ways to make it honestly. Take pride in building things.

Work only as much as you need to get by, and use the rest of your time to find beauty in the world.
 

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So there are many problems plaguing me.

I've got some property in the caribbean. On a beautiful island where the sun always shines. The house itself is falling apart, but the land it's on might be worth 1,000,000. I've got one more year to finish my Civil Engineering degree for which I basically have negative motivation. I feel like I'd rather not even finish it at this point in time because ever since my internship I was thoroughly turned off of the civil engineering life.

What I'm interested in is more psychology, science and biology, not the construction of buildings and bridges. I just want to get the degree for reasons discussed earlier in the thread. For the sake of having a degree.

I am trying to think of this in a practical way, but every time I come up with a solution I only temporarily feel better.

It's always been my goal, my ambition, since I was 11 years old, to come to Holland, get a good degree and then go back to that house in the caribbean and work there and raise my children there. The inheritance my father left is being spent at a retarded pace and it looks as though the house in the caribbean will have to be sold.

I have nobody to turn to for guidance. My brother and my mom don't do anything, like I already said, except sit at home and smoke and spend money.

While this is all going on I am trying to figure out how I can keep the place, whether I can study another degree after I finish this one, etc. I have no idea where I'm going to be in 5 years. I just know that I'm studying for a degree right now to do a job I don't like living in a country that I really don't want to live in.

PS: Let me also mention that the boredom and angst I was pointing to in my last post has led me to get in a fight in the bar 2 weeks ago and end up the hospital. I've been operated, bones in my face restructured. Titanium plate inserted. 4 screws on side of my nose.
 
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Thank you for that advice. More help always welcome.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know many internships with me in your situation, most of them have something in common, they are somehow lonely .
Change study field has little to do with happiness, I think your lack of friends/girls is what is make you depressed.
Do not drop your study this is investment for future.
 

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I know many internships with me in your situation, most of them have something in common, they are somehow lonely .
Change study field has little to do with happiness, I think your lack of friends/girls is what is make you depressed.
Do not drop your study this is investment for future.
Don't ever base life decisions or career piece based upon females. Its not worth it. No ***** Is. Its a compromise to one's being. It won't end well.
 

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Our education system is just another way for the government to milk you. You'd be better off, taking time off, to discover your passions.
 
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