Needless to say, I’ve been an organized and “scheduled” person.
I used to blow people off (e.g., co-workers and friends) whenever they invited me over to lunch or a hang-out over small stuff that weren’t important in the grand scheme of things (going to the gym, eating prepared meals every 2 hours). The fact is, I realized that I could do any of those things at any time and not suffer any setbacks whatsoever. However, I wasn’t doing that, and as a result, I’ve been jeopardizing my social identity and network on my goal to becoming a better Don.
Don’t do it.
If you’re 125 lbs. and you want to gain an extra 30 because you want to get better looks, then handle your business. But don’t let it jeopardize your relationship with your acquaintances and friends. For instance, I was strict about going to the GYM on Mondays to do bench press and upper body workouts. Unfortunately, my friends would have get-togethers on that date and would often invite me to come over to join. I kept blowing them off because I had to be “on schedule” and consistent, when in truth, I could have chosen another time of day to do the workouts.
Another example was when I was on a meal regiment. I had to eat this and this at this and this time in order to gain weight. Co-workers and acquaintances, some of whom were pretty decent looking, would come by, offering to buy me lunch or asking me to come join them. What did I keep saying? “No, I have to eat this right now” or “Maybe next time.”
Point is: The road to becoming a self-improved Don Juan will be faced with many obstacles that you should learn to bypass, but quality time with social acquaintances shouldn’t be one of them.
I used to blow people off (e.g., co-workers and friends) whenever they invited me over to lunch or a hang-out over small stuff that weren’t important in the grand scheme of things (going to the gym, eating prepared meals every 2 hours). The fact is, I realized that I could do any of those things at any time and not suffer any setbacks whatsoever. However, I wasn’t doing that, and as a result, I’ve been jeopardizing my social identity and network on my goal to becoming a better Don.
Don’t do it.
If you’re 125 lbs. and you want to gain an extra 30 because you want to get better looks, then handle your business. But don’t let it jeopardize your relationship with your acquaintances and friends. For instance, I was strict about going to the GYM on Mondays to do bench press and upper body workouts. Unfortunately, my friends would have get-togethers on that date and would often invite me to come over to join. I kept blowing them off because I had to be “on schedule” and consistent, when in truth, I could have chosen another time of day to do the workouts.
Another example was when I was on a meal regiment. I had to eat this and this at this and this time in order to gain weight. Co-workers and acquaintances, some of whom were pretty decent looking, would come by, offering to buy me lunch or asking me to come join them. What did I keep saying? “No, I have to eat this right now” or “Maybe next time.”
Point is: The road to becoming a self-improved Don Juan will be faced with many obstacles that you should learn to bypass, but quality time with social acquaintances shouldn’t be one of them.