"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don't give women room to play games

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bigpapa

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Depends , the problem with being super direct from the get go means that a girl will have to take a decision if yes or no very early on

as women are not really taking risks , a maybe girl most of the times will be a no , even if maybe 50% or more of them would have been a yes after a while

thus , you are loosing more than you are getting

Game means turning maybe girls into hell yeah girls
 

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You think a girl isn’t going to **** test you if you’re direct?lol Boy are you in for a rude awakening. You can drop her, but I promise the average girl has way more options than the average guy. You’ll never get out of this by not playing the game, you just have to decide how much of the game you’re willing to play.
 

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Depends , the problem with being super direct from the get go means that a girl will have to take a decision if yes or no very early on

as women are not really taking risks , a maybe girl most of the times will be a no , even if maybe 50% or more of them would have been a yes after a while

thus , you are loosing more than you are getting

Game means turning maybe girls into hell yeah girls

I agree theres been times where being super direct has worked and saved me a lot of headaches and hassle but also crashed and burned hard with girls ive "wanted" to date

I think girls just have too many options to comply with males being logically direct these days if she says no to you so what theres 100 others in the wings
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I agree theres been times where being super direct has worked and saved me a lot of headaches and hassle but also crashed and burned hard with girls ive "wanted" to date

I think girls just have too many options to comply with males being logically direct these days if she says no to you so what theres 100 others in the wings
The girls that you wanted to date may well have just wasted your time and then rejected you anyway if you had gone indirect.
 
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