"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don't get trod on

Jay Dee

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Just got back in after a night out, just wanted to post what I thought was an unusual situation at this bar/club I go to somewhat regularly, every few weeks. Got there after 4am, minding my own business, dancing and shuffling a bit, and this woman comes over from across the room. Noticed she'd been sitting in a bloke's lap earlier, but didn't give it much more notice than that. HB6 milf but trim figure - seen her before but that's been it.

Stands by me, and shows me her shoe, which had a bit of cardboard stuck to it. She only expected me to take it off for her!!! I laughed at her. Tried to lift her other leg to get her to step on it (excuse for some kino), but it had already come off. She then shows the other shoe and there's a cotton ear bud (Q-Tip) stuck on there - I laughed even more. Says a lot about the places I go, eh.

It gets worse... she says 'could you take it off' I say 'you're a grown up you can do it yourself' and also called her a child for needing someone to do it for her. Course I had some mouth back, but I ignored it - it was an awful test. If she'd flirted first or I danced with her earlier AND I was feeling generous I might have kicked her shoe. But bending down and use my hand? What's in it for me considering another guy is in the picture? Hell no.

I don't post normally because although there's lots of bad behaviour out in the bars and clubs - I'm usually immune. However had to get this one out there as I hope it's not a trend. There's a moral to the story - don't get used as a slave -but wanted to write up a real life story to motivate and demonstrate what to do if such a situation occurs to the young Juans here. I just hope this is not too commonplace.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Demonicale

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Well done bud, you played it right. You'd have looked like such a tool if you had gotten down on your knees to take the **** off her shoe. Bravo!
 

PeasantPlayer

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Does KINO stand for anything? I know it has to do with touching, contact. What is some effect KINO?
 

No.Danny

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PeasantPlayer said:
Does KINO stand for anything? I know it has to do with touching, contact. What is some effect KINO?
Kino helps raise attraction. Let's her know you're attracted. Friends don't use kino.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No.Danny

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PeasantPlayer said:
What is KINO exactly though? Any articles?
I have one in the high school forum. Kino is touching. Hugs, brushing of arms, knees. Hand holding. Etc....
 

IBreatheSpears

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"Kino" comes from Greek kineo which literally means "to set in motion". We use it to mean touching for some reason even though there's no English word with the root kineo which has anything to do with touch. The closest is kinesthesia which is our sense of motion. Nothing to do with touching though, Idk what genius decided to use that.
 

VladPatton

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Damn. If she would of asked me to get that QTip off her shoe I would of said "that's ok, I'm good, I'll pass on that", gotten myself a beer and gotten the fück away from her. Bıtch had balls.
 

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I wonder if she was trying to punk you on purpose. Maybe she told her friends "watch what I can do..."
 
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