Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Don't feel sexual anymore???

JustWuzzle

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I don't know what is going on I just don't feel sexually excited anymore. I don't even want to masterbate anymore. What the hell is going on. I used to be DTF all the time but now I just don't seem into it. I had a girl over here who was down and I just couldn't get in to it. I guess I'm just not looking for sex anymore. Hell my ex was touching on me yesterday and I just brushed her hand away. I didn't even touch her like I used to do. With this other girl I just couldn't do it I mean i met her twice and she was ready she was wet. Just seems wrong to me I used to be able to do two women in one day a couple years ago but now nothing. What's going on???
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dear JustPuzzle,
Well unless you post your age how can we help you?
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear JustPuzzle,
Well unless you post your age how can we help you?
Hell, my bad I'm 25 won't be 26 til october of this year. I think I just don't feel right it's a mental thing know what I'm saying. When I get my stuff together I'll feel better about myself. I don't know just what I'm thinking
 

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Don't sweat it at all. It's just a phase most men go through once in a blue moon.

Most likely your subconsciouse is busy at work figuring out or resolving issues in your life, and the engines have been idled down. Just accept it and roll with it and without even realizing it you'll be back in the saddle when the time is right. It's normal.
 

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Thanks JW,
Most unusual,sounds as though it is something Medical....See your Doc,insist on a testosterone test...If you can't afford or are shy,I am sure correspondence with Collossus would be beneficial.Should your test be within acceptable limits,you really need to talk to a shrink....Don't let this slide it IS NOT NORMAL.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Atom Smasher said:
Don't sweat it at all. It's just a phase most men go through once in a blue moon.

Most likely your subconsciouse is busy at work figuring out or resolving issues in your life, and the engines have been idled down. Just accept it and roll with it and without even realizing it you'll be back in the saddle when the time is right. It's normal.
This.
 

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It will come back, you're most likely focusing your energy on other pursuits at the moment and it's taking a toll on your libido.

Just don't obsess on it, it only makes it worth.

For now, why would you miss something you don't want?
 

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how do you feel about life in general? are you under stress at worketc? more than usual? any other stressors (new or bigger) in your life?
loss of libido can be due to stress and or depression, how is your motivation? activity levels? are you exercising and eating well?
 

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It could be a phase, but keep in mind arousal is a fairly complicated series of events and triggers. It sounds to me like your issue is psychological. You probably know best what the root of that is. If you WANT to get down but your hardware isnt cooperating, then that could be physiological. At your age that is unlikely, however. If it doesnt pass in a few weeks I would get your testosterone checked and a general cardiovascular workup.
 

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Colossus said:
It could be a phase, but keep in mind arousal is a fairly complicated series of events and triggers. It sounds to me like your issue is psychological. You probably know best what the root of that is. If you WANT to get down but your hardware isnt cooperating, then that could be physiological. At your age that is unlikely, however. If it doesnt pass in a few weeks I would get your testosterone checked and a general cardiovascular workup.
Yeah, I just posted something bout my ex my legs bothering didn't help. It was just temorary though. I'm back to normal I think I will hold up from spanking the old weasel probably forever.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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That happened to me but I met a new girl and suddenly had 4 hour erections.
 
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