"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't expect everyone to like you

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Everyone wants everyone to like them, but this is an impossible task.


Accept the fact that no matter how nice, fair and respectable you are to others, there are still people out there who will not like you. This could be due to the way you look, a lack of respect or envy, etc.

Too many of us walk on egg shells in life or don't want to assert ourselves or our opinion because others may not like us for it.

THIS IS THE WRONG WAY TO LIVE:

Accept it as a fact of life that not everyone is going to like us and you will feel more relaxed.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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just so suave

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True. Also iv'e found not all girls like me, only about half maybe less do. So just play it cool when a chick isn't interested.
 

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My name is Interceptor, and I approve of this message,
Thank you.




:yes:
 

War Against Betaism

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Good advice, one of my friends is supposedly "really really hot" (to be honest I just can't see it) and almost all the boyfriends in our area don't like him lol.
 

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Don't expect anyone to like you.

MM
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Joe The Homophobe

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just so suave said:
True. Also iv'e found not all girls like me, only about half maybe less do. So just play it cool when a chick isn't interested.
half? what are you a moviestar? for most men it is def less than half.
 

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stuka1939 said:
Accept it as a fact of life that not everyone is going to like us and you will feel more relaxed.
Your message is missing something so allow me to interject.

Don't go out of your way to make people like you. Make sure by the end of the day you LIKE YOURSELF, and RESPECT YOURSELF otherwise everything else means sh1t. I see too many people out there that are looking for social proof as everything in this world but in the end of the day they lose themselves in the process and end up hating themselves because they are not themseleves and they can't stand living in their own skin.

Oh and if you end up liking yourself and become a successful as a result, expect the number of people that hate you to rise up. Those are the people who failed in life, the people who hate themselves and wish misery upon everyone so they don't feel left behind. It is why they say its lonely at the top.....

People watch The Jerry Springer show because they can point their finger and laugh at other people's misery and it makes them feel good that someone out there is alot more fvcked up then they are.
 

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Cool post.

I find the more people want to be liked, the less liked they are. A good role model to me is someone who is liked for who he is.. not who he is projecting himself to be.
 

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DJDamage said:
Your message is missing something so allow me to interject.

Don't go out of your way to make people like you. Make sure by the end of the day you LIKE YOURSELF, and RESPECT YOURSELF otherwise everything else means sh1t. I see too many people out there that are looking for social proof as everything in this world but in the end of the day they lose themselves in the process and end up hating themselves because they are not themseleves and they can't stand living in their own skin.

Oh and if you end up liking yourself and become a successful as a result, expect the number of people that hate you to rise up. Those are the people who failed in life, the people who hate themselves and wish misery upon everyone so they don't feel left behind. It is why they say its lonely at the top.....

People watch The Jerry Springer show because they can point their finger and laugh at other people's misery and it makes them feel good that someone out there is alot more fvcked up then they are.

Are there any threads or whatnot that cover this topic well? I need to get this drilled through my head. :p
 

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Yeah, even if you are handicapped and retarded with no hands and feet someone will find a reason to not like you. :mad:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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completely brilliant :up: :up:

and Damage's complementary response is pretty good too
 
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