"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't expect everyone to like you

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Everyone wants everyone to like them, but this is an impossible task.


Accept the fact that no matter how nice, fair and respectable you are to others, there are still people out there who will not like you. This could be due to the way you look, a lack of respect or envy, etc.

Too many of us walk on egg shells in life or don't want to assert ourselves or our opinion because others may not like us for it.

THIS IS THE WRONG WAY TO LIVE:

Accept it as a fact of life that not everyone is going to like us and you will feel more relaxed.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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just so suave

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True. Also iv'e found not all girls like me, only about half maybe less do. So just play it cool when a chick isn't interested.
 

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My name is Interceptor, and I approve of this message,
Thank you.




:yes:
 

War Against Betaism

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Good advice, one of my friends is supposedly "really really hot" (to be honest I just can't see it) and almost all the boyfriends in our area don't like him lol.
 

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Don't expect anyone to like you.

MM
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Joe The Homophobe

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just so suave said:
True. Also iv'e found not all girls like me, only about half maybe less do. So just play it cool when a chick isn't interested.
half? what are you a moviestar? for most men it is def less than half.
 

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stuka1939 said:
Accept it as a fact of life that not everyone is going to like us and you will feel more relaxed.
Your message is missing something so allow me to interject.

Don't go out of your way to make people like you. Make sure by the end of the day you LIKE YOURSELF, and RESPECT YOURSELF otherwise everything else means sh1t. I see too many people out there that are looking for social proof as everything in this world but in the end of the day they lose themselves in the process and end up hating themselves because they are not themseleves and they can't stand living in their own skin.

Oh and if you end up liking yourself and become a successful as a result, expect the number of people that hate you to rise up. Those are the people who failed in life, the people who hate themselves and wish misery upon everyone so they don't feel left behind. It is why they say its lonely at the top.....

People watch The Jerry Springer show because they can point their finger and laugh at other people's misery and it makes them feel good that someone out there is alot more fvcked up then they are.
 

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Cool post.

I find the more people want to be liked, the less liked they are. A good role model to me is someone who is liked for who he is.. not who he is projecting himself to be.
 

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DJDamage said:
Your message is missing something so allow me to interject.

Don't go out of your way to make people like you. Make sure by the end of the day you LIKE YOURSELF, and RESPECT YOURSELF otherwise everything else means sh1t. I see too many people out there that are looking for social proof as everything in this world but in the end of the day they lose themselves in the process and end up hating themselves because they are not themseleves and they can't stand living in their own skin.

Oh and if you end up liking yourself and become a successful as a result, expect the number of people that hate you to rise up. Those are the people who failed in life, the people who hate themselves and wish misery upon everyone so they don't feel left behind. It is why they say its lonely at the top.....

People watch The Jerry Springer show because they can point their finger and laugh at other people's misery and it makes them feel good that someone out there is alot more fvcked up then they are.

Are there any threads or whatnot that cover this topic well? I need to get this drilled through my head. :p
 

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Yeah, even if you are handicapped and retarded with no hands and feet someone will find a reason to not like you. :mad:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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completely brilliant :up: :up:

and Damage's complementary response is pretty good too
 
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