"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Don't do what i did

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Don Juan
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****, last night i ended my relationship with my girlfriend, we only been togheter for 3 months, i know her since we where in higschool and we have tons of mutual friends, so i took it easy and right from the start i ignored a lot of red flags that EVERYONE should be aware of. My stupid excuse was, "shes a friend, i want to give her the benefit of a doubt". So what where the red flags you ask?

Cancels too many dates
Says she wants children and marriage right from the start
Shes sometimes distant, sometimes all over you
Shes 35 and never been married

I wasnt happy with the relationship right from the start, so what did i do, i was seeing other women, no problem, but still i just couldnt accept the relationship. So last night i got fed up with it, i called her and told her i wasnt "comfortable" with the relationship, she apologized and told me she was sorry for not being able to give it 100% and focusing too much on work, she wanted to wait until the next day so we could talk, but i told her it wasnt necesary, i wished her the best and said goodbye.

Red flags my friends, dont ignore them, they are what they are, in this case, i ignored a woman who was saying she wanted marriage, kids, and soon, and at the time she didnt seem to have time for a day off every now and then.

Don't do what i did, and what did i learn from this one?

1.-Trust your instincts
2.-Don't ignore red flags
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don Juan
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What I did with this other girl, I knew it wouldn't work out.

I just had to **** her first. :D Yea, im a jerk.
 
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