"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Don't do what I did...

stumpy_mcgee

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I'm in love with this girl who has a boyfriend of over two years. They've had tons of problems, but she always goes back to him. I hadn't considered myself an AFC in a long time...but looking back on things with her...I totally am. She knows how I feel, and she's expressed 'strong' feelings back...which is what has kept me thinking 'some day i'll be with her'. Finally, I've given up on it. I made too many mistakes, and I doubt we'll ever be together. I'm still her friend because she's awesome, but I'm not letting myself fall for what she says anymore.
I guess the whole point of this is...if you want a girl...never become her friend, and if she has a bf...but says she has feelings for you in that way...don't let yourself get caught up in it...because you will get hurt in the end.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ya, the friend zone is a bottomless pit with an exit hole at the bottom. also, ive seen this type of post a billion times, we ought to make some sort of special place for all the small issues to go so that we can focus on the bigger picture
 

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Originally posted by stumpy_mcgee
She knows how I feel, and she's expressed 'strong' feelings back...which is what has kept me thinking 'some day i'll be with her'. Finally, I've given up on it.
To her you are just an idiot she uses when she needs to talk to someone. Of course she will say she has strong feelings for you, but when it is all said and done she won't even leave her bf who she has tons of problems with! This is all bs. If she has expressed 'strong' feelings for you yet is still with problem bf, you know this is just bs. If she really wanted you she would have gone after you. Instead she has been with her bf for over 2 years. You are nothing more than a friend to her.

take this advice, don't be such an idiot not to see her bs. Stop being such a puzzy and be a real man, get a girlfriend of your own, don't take another man's woman or wait around for girls to leave their boyfriends.

Do you know how pathetic you sound? coming here saying you are in love with a girl that has had a bf for over 2 years, and you are waiting there like a p**** for her to leave him? stop wasting your precious life, read the dj bible, apply the concepts to your life and get yourself your own girlfriends
 
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Originally posted by stumpy_mcgee
I'm in love with this girl who has a boyfriend of over two years. They've had tons of problems, but she always goes back to him. I hadn't considered myself an AFC in a long time...but looking back on things with her...I totally am. She knows how I feel, and she's expressed 'strong' feelings back...which is what has kept me thinking 'some day i'll be with her'. Finally, I've given up on it. I made too many mistakes, and I doubt we'll ever be together. I'm still her friend because she's awesome, but I'm not letting myself fall for what she says anymore.
I guess the whole point of this is...if you want a girl...never become her friend, and if she has a bf...but says she has feelings for you in that way...don't let yourself get caught up in it...because you will get hurt in the end.
is your name sergio?! you sound like my girlfriend's best friend:D
 

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Originally posted by chill
ya, the friend zone is a bottomless pit with an exit hole at the bottom
You do realize you just contradicted yourself there, right?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Friend zone is absolute garbage.

It's good, however, that you can realize and identify the issue - that's the first step to getting out of these predicaments.

If it helps any - take solace in that women get in the 'friends zone' with guys a lot too, and regret it as well.
 

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Ouch...that was kinda harsh. I asked for it though. Just to defend myself...a lot of guys, and yes, real men, end up falling for taken girls, who they are friends with. I know I've gotta focus on those other girls who are interested in me...it just sucks sometimes when you want the girl who'll never want you.
 
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