Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Don't bytch and complain if you're a willing "victim".

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You can't bytch and complain about a chick or chicks doing you dirty if you're your own worst enemy.

If you're a co-dependent, validation seeking, willing "victim" to a toxic chick let alone a series of them the problem isn't the toxic chicks. The problem is you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you assume the ability for someone to be self introspective........IMO that doesnt happen with the majority of people in general.
True but you can always control your behaviour
 

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True but you can always control your behaviour
I wholeheartedly agree, however, more people I know tend to use the phrase "i wouldn't have behaved/reacted/acted that way if person X wouldn't have done this/that"

Lots of blaming and finger pointing, not a lot of "owning" going on.... Typically
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wholeheartedly agree, however, more people I know tend to use the phrase "i wouldn't have behaved/reacted/acted that way if person X wouldn't have done this/that"

Lots of blaming and finger pointing, not a lot of "owning" going on.... Typically
Owning is for alpha

Whinning for beta

Life throw lemons? Make lemonade
 

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I wholeheartedly agree, however, more people I know tend to use the phrase "i wouldn't have behaved/reacted/acted that way if person X wouldn't have done this/that"

Lots of blaming and finger pointing, not a lot of "owning" going on.... Typically
People do not want to take responsibility for their own actions, they will always blame someone else instead of just owning up and moving the hell on with their life. People **** up, tis how life works.
 
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