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Don Juan
Most guys think women want to be bought gifts. Most people on this forum probably already know that that's not true. However, what makes this different from others is that girls KNOW this isn't true!
Most girls will actually say they don't like it when guys buy them gifts, take them to fancy restaurants, take them on nice vacations, etc, the reason being that they view this as manipulative. (This is not something they feel "deep down." This is something that they are conscious of and have said.) When guys get gifts, they typically view it as an expression of care, friendliness, or love; a nice way to express how someone feels about you, and typically they will feel more affection (whether friendly or romantic) for that person after receiving the gift, and want to do things for that person in return. Because of this they think girls are the same way... but they're not.
When girls get gifts, they get suspicious. "Why is this guy just buying me gifts out of nowhere? Why is he taking me on a trip? What's in it for him?" That soon leads them to think that guys who do this are trying to manipulate them in some way, or trying to compensate for something. Either way, not good. So she gets freaked out. Some will leave right then. Others will decide to manipulate you "in return." She decides, "He's trying to manipulate me! Well, two can play at this game."
To "win" the game, she will accept every gift and get everything she can from you... until it's time to have sex. Then she pulls the "Let's just be friends." In her mind, you were trying to manipulate her, and she beat you at your own game... "no guy tries to manipulate me into having sex with him."
There are a few exceptions to this rule... a notable one is the gold digger. The gold digger, instead of just saying let's just be friends, will either say she won't have sex until marriage (in the hopes that you'll marry her) or have sex with you. If you got a girl by buying her gifts and taking her on nice vacations, beware. She waits until you are married, and likely stays with you too, unless you lose your money, in which case, she's gone.
This is why buying gifts doesn't work. Women don't want them. This is actually a positive thing: you don't have to spend all of your money on gifts, and you get the girl.
Most girls will actually say they don't like it when guys buy them gifts, take them to fancy restaurants, take them on nice vacations, etc, the reason being that they view this as manipulative. (This is not something they feel "deep down." This is something that they are conscious of and have said.) When guys get gifts, they typically view it as an expression of care, friendliness, or love; a nice way to express how someone feels about you, and typically they will feel more affection (whether friendly or romantic) for that person after receiving the gift, and want to do things for that person in return. Because of this they think girls are the same way... but they're not.
When girls get gifts, they get suspicious. "Why is this guy just buying me gifts out of nowhere? Why is he taking me on a trip? What's in it for him?" That soon leads them to think that guys who do this are trying to manipulate them in some way, or trying to compensate for something. Either way, not good. So she gets freaked out. Some will leave right then. Others will decide to manipulate you "in return." She decides, "He's trying to manipulate me! Well, two can play at this game."
To "win" the game, she will accept every gift and get everything she can from you... until it's time to have sex. Then she pulls the "Let's just be friends." In her mind, you were trying to manipulate her, and she beat you at your own game... "no guy tries to manipulate me into having sex with him."
There are a few exceptions to this rule... a notable one is the gold digger. The gold digger, instead of just saying let's just be friends, will either say she won't have sex until marriage (in the hopes that you'll marry her) or have sex with you. If you got a girl by buying her gifts and taking her on nice vacations, beware. She waits until you are married, and likely stays with you too, unless you lose your money, in which case, she's gone.
This is why buying gifts doesn't work. Women don't want them. This is actually a positive thing: you don't have to spend all of your money on gifts, and you get the girl.
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