"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dont build INTEREST LEVEL too soon. Use the drama of FLUCTUATION.

blayde

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I've come to realize that sometimes i can actually CONTROL her interest level.

I've learned what drives it up, and I SAVE those moments for when certain times.

Here is how I drive it up: Social Proof, witty jokes, neg hits, and above all being a mystery and a challenge. That's basic .

Why do i WAIT to unleash this stuff?

Because women looking for a relationship leading to marriage create an inner world in which their fantasy plays out SLOWLY.

This is their drama.

When they're with you theyre wondering if you are husband material or not. And in their minds, husband material is something that BUILDS.


Come to think of it, in rare cases I allow the level to go DOWN. I realize that she's getting ahead of herself. She is becoming INFATUATED with me but I know that won't last.
So I call less, and hold back.

Her interest levels off for sure, but here comes mr. mystery/challenge again. I let my personality out of its hibernation and her interest level goes back up.

See..? This is drama. Just when she was unsure if you were husband material, you came out of the pack and PROVED that you are worth her attentions.

The challenge was building subconsciously.
Sometimes only TIME can build it. So dont build up interest level too soon.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sanjuro

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not so sure about girls wanting husband material all the time. aren't nice guys husband material?? and we all know what happens to nice guys.
 
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