"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PeterCrouch

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think ive done something stupid!

infact i know i have, need to know if theres anyway i can save myself!


Basically chatting to this gal on msn, she says hi, i ask her how she is etc she says all the better for hearing from you!

then we had some chit chat about the dentists she had been too

then she says are ya watching blah blah

i said kinda but i havent watched it for a while and then i said has (gal on the program) always looked that fit? she said woteva, she said well i ait telling ya whats been going on if ya havent watched it i said what i knew had happend she said shut up, i said y? coz u know im right? she said no! i said coz im brilliant and if i keep talking you wont be able to stop thinking about me? she said lol yeh def! beiing sarcastic obviously! so i said yep thought so, she said lol!

so im doing ok, ive been a little ****y and funny,

then she says "iam going to go, ill se ya tomorrow if your in" (college)

then she says "love ya see ya xxxxx"

now here i should of said toodles xx as i usually do

but stupidly i said "no dont go stay!" ive just got into (tv show)!!

then she said "you'll see me tomorrow xxxxx"

then she went!

ive had a mare! ive come off too desperate havent i?

worst thing is ive liked her for a while and about a week ago i realised she was an attention seeker and i decided to move onto her best friend but i still kinda have feelings for her so i dont wanna sound like a jerk!! and last few days she been more intrested in me than ever before! saying things like she will cry if i go away (planning on moving) and saying things like her bday wouldnt be the same without me and stuff!

is there anyway i can save myself with a text or something i can do tomorrow?

cheers for the hep!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I'm gonna agree with Mr. Shezzler here.

You definitely did have C+F stuff there. Nice.

Just don't make a big deal out of anything. You're in charge of things here. No need to apologize or explain yourself to her or whatever.

I've done that "ignoring" thing before in a similar situation. If ur in an environment in which you know she's gonna be there.. do your own thing, live your life.. let her come over and initate the convo. And when that happens, be chill, C+F, charming, whatever.

*shrugs*
 

PeterCrouch

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cool glad you guys dont think ive messed up

tbh i dont think i have a chance with her, we have known each other for 6 months or so and things have happend and convos have been had which i cant be arsed to go into, but basically if im being honest i dont have a chance and i think shes an attention seeker!

but im glad you guys have helped and ill definatly do my own thing tomorrow and let her come to me!

cheers
 

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Asking her to stay is no big deal. As shezzler said, don't try to resolve anything as that leads to a downward spiral. Let it slide and let her come to you next.
 

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"toodles"..:crackup:...god, i still can't get over that.

anyway, in all seriousness that wasn't the best thing to say but it definately wasn't the worst either. everyone fuks up their game once and a while, the important thing that can either make or brake you is how you RECOVER. believe it or not u can actually use this little incident to you advantage if you play your cards right. like Shezzler said, DON'T LET HER SEE THAT YOU HAVE FEELING FOR HER when you see/talk to her again. she'll probably wonder y the sudden change of heart...and of course she'll try a little harder to win it back, why?, cuz that's what girls do....and of course, cuz ur soosuave.

whenever you 'fukup' like this just do what i do and take it as a a learning experience and a little reminder that you may need to work a little harder on this HB. toodles :crackup: <--and stop saying that by the way.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PeterCrouch

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no way nothing wrong with toodles!

actually the coolest word ever!

everyone loves it!

umm anyway it went ok, i saw her in college she stopped came into the class i was in and we had a quick chat and spoke online that evening and eveything was cool!

cheers guys!

toodles xx
 

PeterCrouch

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Mate for a start your in usa im in a decent country where one word doesnt mean your gonna get laid or not!

secondly i got toodles from a mate of mine, he right now is going out with the hottest gal in our town! now i dont see the fact that he uses toodles alot has harmed him with the gals!

and thirdly toodles is a great word! FACT!
 
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