Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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don;t date till ya 30's -parents saying

joe45

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has anyone ever had v ery very strict parents-they think at the age of 24 25 that dating is still too young and that u should focus on ur studies in college. what did u do, and did u follow or did u just do it behind their back-what did u tell the girl u were dating-did u keep her for long , made up stories like ya i can;t go b/c i have to work .....etc
girls these days are dating like in HS which i was so supirsed , oh ya a 18 yr old girl i knew in one of my classes has a bf- oh and i was told by my mom that 25 is too young imagine that girl 18 yea and bf- it thought she was too young.
parents think and believe that u should date when ur financially secure with a good well paying job-and date when ur in ur 30's, i mean how many guys are like that nowadays. as for me 25 with hardly any dating expereince how am i suppose to tell my furture date or gf about this-do i lie or what-even if i tell the truth how many gals would believe this story.
parents are very tradiional chinese folks-don;t belive in mix marriages and dating out. what do u do. i don;t want to hurt and break up with a girl and tell her -yea folks are soooo strict they don;t let me date-they think its a waste of time and that i should jsut study-btw i suck at school-never really did any good from elementary school to now-was just a avg student - wasn't b/c i was a slacker-just suck at school
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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vorbis

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you're 24. You're now an adult. By all means conside what your parents say but live your life. If you're still living at home I'd suggest moving out. That will give you the personal space to change your life.
 

blueangel83

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FCK THESE STRICT ASIAN PARENTS!

"parents think and believe that u should date when ur financially secure with a good well paying job-and date when ur in ur 30's"

I never listen to them, obviously.

Ya can't control a freak :D
 

OzyBoy

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I think that is stupid. if you wait to you are a lot older you are going to be left behind and be lonely because everyone is taken. If i ever have children one day once they finish high school i would let them but not 25 that is stupid.
 

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HA!

I've had my parents tell me somthing similar like that...only they say don't MARRY until ur 30 and it was more of a sugestion than a rule.

try saying to them, "ok...il jus go out and root as many chicks as i can find then.....bye mum!"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Life-Trainee

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joe45:

You've been asking pretty much the same questions here for a while and you don't seem to be taking any advice people give you.

* Finish your education
* Move out of your parents place ( you can do this while in college, living in a dorm )
* Live your own life!

You're not taking any charge of your life and you let others dictate it for you, notably your parents. You're unsure of yourself because you rely on others to make decisions for you.

Before you can get success with girls you need to fix YOUR life first.
 

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Listen to your parents by all means and give consideration to everything they say but dont take their advice word for word.

Take the good and cut away the restrictions.Sure enter into a relationship with a woman when you are ready to be a hubby,dad etc
 

DJ_in_making

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Go see the fourty year old virgin....

Think about what your parents told you.......

Put them both on a scale and balance them out.....

You have to be financially secure? It's not like you're getting married.

Kids date in junior high, it's not that big a deal.
 

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the real problem is you didn't rebel enough in your younger years...it's your job to work your parents in...especially if you have younger siblings..."let" them catch you coming home drunk, smelling like weed etc

i'm pretty sure that if i never rebelled against my asian parents i'd be alot more like your average awkward asian kid
 

Gonzalo

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Sorry guys, but I side with the parents in this one: dating SUCKS.

Go SS.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Good_ol_boy

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Let me guess, you are first generation Canadian, your parents are from the "old country"?
 

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You wouldn't seriously do that would you? How many (attractive) women do you think exist who would want to be with a 30 y/o guy who has never been on a date? Don't even give this a second thought.
 
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