"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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don;t date till ya 30's -parents saying

joe45

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has anyone ever had v ery very strict parents-they think at the age of 24 25 that dating is still too young and that u should focus on ur studies in college. what did u do, and did u follow or did u just do it behind their back-what did u tell the girl u were dating-did u keep her for long , made up stories like ya i can;t go b/c i have to work .....etc
girls these days are dating like in HS which i was so supirsed , oh ya a 18 yr old girl i knew in one of my classes has a bf- oh and i was told by my mom that 25 is too young imagine that girl 18 yea and bf- it thought she was too young.
parents think and believe that u should date when ur financially secure with a good well paying job-and date when ur in ur 30's, i mean how many guys are like that nowadays. as for me 25 with hardly any dating expereince how am i suppose to tell my furture date or gf about this-do i lie or what-even if i tell the truth how many gals would believe this story.
parents are very tradiional chinese folks-don;t belive in mix marriages and dating out. what do u do. i don;t want to hurt and break up with a girl and tell her -yea folks are soooo strict they don;t let me date-they think its a waste of time and that i should jsut study-btw i suck at school-never really did any good from elementary school to now-was just a avg student - wasn't b/c i was a slacker-just suck at school
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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vorbis

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you're 24. You're now an adult. By all means conside what your parents say but live your life. If you're still living at home I'd suggest moving out. That will give you the personal space to change your life.
 

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FCK THESE STRICT ASIAN PARENTS!

"parents think and believe that u should date when ur financially secure with a good well paying job-and date when ur in ur 30's"

I never listen to them, obviously.

Ya can't control a freak :D
 

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I think that is stupid. if you wait to you are a lot older you are going to be left behind and be lonely because everyone is taken. If i ever have children one day once they finish high school i would let them but not 25 that is stupid.
 

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HA!

I've had my parents tell me somthing similar like that...only they say don't MARRY until ur 30 and it was more of a sugestion than a rule.

try saying to them, "ok...il jus go out and root as many chicks as i can find then.....bye mum!"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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joe45:

You've been asking pretty much the same questions here for a while and you don't seem to be taking any advice people give you.

* Finish your education
* Move out of your parents place ( you can do this while in college, living in a dorm )
* Live your own life!

You're not taking any charge of your life and you let others dictate it for you, notably your parents. You're unsure of yourself because you rely on others to make decisions for you.

Before you can get success with girls you need to fix YOUR life first.
 

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Listen to your parents by all means and give consideration to everything they say but dont take their advice word for word.

Take the good and cut away the restrictions.Sure enter into a relationship with a woman when you are ready to be a hubby,dad etc
 

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Go see the fourty year old virgin....

Think about what your parents told you.......

Put them both on a scale and balance them out.....

You have to be financially secure? It's not like you're getting married.

Kids date in junior high, it's not that big a deal.
 

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the real problem is you didn't rebel enough in your younger years...it's your job to work your parents in...especially if you have younger siblings..."let" them catch you coming home drunk, smelling like weed etc

i'm pretty sure that if i never rebelled against my asian parents i'd be alot more like your average awkward asian kid
 

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Sorry guys, but I side with the parents in this one: dating SUCKS.

Go SS.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Let me guess, you are first generation Canadian, your parents are from the "old country"?
 

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You wouldn't seriously do that would you? How many (attractive) women do you think exist who would want to be with a 30 y/o guy who has never been on a date? Don't even give this a second thought.
 
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