Don Juans vs Agrophobia

[K2000kidd]

My friend Dave has a decent social circle
and recently met this girl who is really into him
He believes he suffers agrophobia and thinks
it may really become a problem dating her.

One on one he's OK and a few people over the house is cool
but mention clubs, amusement parks, concerts, ball games or basically anywhere there might be a crowd he goes into
"aww i'll probably just play COD or rent something off netflix" mode

He don't do bars and barely leaves his house other than work and errands
I don't know any single woman who is down with sitting home to
watch movies on a friday or saturday night.

any advice??

 

[premierxxx]

I'm no Doc and not familiar with disorder but, obviously making him aware of disorder is a first step. Then through slow exposure to different places I bet he can over come it.

Does your buddy smoke marijuana?


Sometimes this herb can help, other times it can make symptoms worst. He should give it a try. Idea is to smoke is no often than twice a week, and use the drug time for introspection. That's what helps, you're able to discover yourself more than you otherwise are capable.



Now what makes you think it's acrophobia? Could it be that he just wants alone time for himself for whatever he does alone by himself?

 

[3countriesPlan]

hermititius... ya I get that too on occasion.. tell him to think about how nice its going to be boning that chick in a dark alley behind a club , amusement park, or concert and he should be able to turn off his shyness.. maybe he is really tuned into the DJ mindset and wants isolation on *****hes
good luck
at worst he can just have hoes watching netflix while they bobbing their heads in his pad

 

[WaterTiger]

Will a party girl from the local club want to sit at home & watch netflicks movies? No way! So find him a different kind of girl.

Go to a gaming store and let him pick up a girl that likes playing "Left For Dead" for hours on end! :rockon:

Go to the library and find a chick who's majoring in Russian Lit.:crazy:

Clubs and crowds aren't the only place to find girls.

 

[omega05]

AGORAphobia

 

[Mr_rogers]

Sounds more like a case of social anxiety disorder than anything. Agoraphobics are literally terrified to venture out of their homes for any reason including work, errands and all that. Sounds like your buddy is just anxious around large groups of people that he's not familiar with. The reason he's okay at his house is because his home is familiar to him and he feels more or less like he's in control.

The best way to combat social anxiety disorder is the "baby steps" method. He needs to get out of the house and out of his comfort zone. Start him off at a place like a coffee shop at a fairly busy hour and gradually work up to more and more crowded places. It'll be scary for him at first, but the general idea is to slowly desensitize him until the anxiety he feels is manageable and then gone altogether.