ok guys i need some help. ok today was my birthday. n i went out wit all my friends. and theres this one girl im talking to that WAS NOT THERE. she was at home because she lives kind of far. should i call her tonight? or should i call her tomorrow? or not call her at all and wait for her to call me? i dont wanna look like im a loser with nothing to do so i call her, but yea. and also another question is. sunday im taking her out on a date. would this be too much for a first date : Movie ( ring 2 ), Lunch, Bowling, then out ta this really nice place where you can see all these lights at night?? if its too much plz tell me what to do. beacuse i dont get to see this girl a lot. twice a week at the max. and i really do like her.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Master Don Juan
Bro...don't get your boxers all bunched up. Take a deep breathe and relax!
hahaha
Ferril though..you have nothing to worry about..she already accepted the first date with you this Sunday. Don't over analyz this situation. First off, just have fun. Second, have fun. And third..HAVE FUN!! Its a date...it doesn't matter if you go bullriding and eating tofu burgers...if you have fun, smile, and are confident without being needy..you'll be fine.
When to call? Why call? Should I call today? Tommorrow?
Bro....calm down...
Basically she had a valid reason for not making your bday...so don't look at it as a guage of low interest. REMEMBER, YOU ALREADY HAVE THE DATE, over analyzing will only screw things up.
Her missing your bday is a perfect opportunity to call her and give her a neg/hit and some c/f:
"Awww....so you think you're too cool to come to my birthday eh! hahaha..all good...I'll let you make it up to me with a lap dance when I pick you up this Sunay!"
Good C/F opener...you say it with the right attitude and a ****y yet non-arrogant goofy tone...it will come off smoothly and put her in a position to owe you one for missing out on your bday. This is a great way to confirm the date too.
Good luck bro..and relax and have fun with it. Be confident..and remember, you ALREADY HAVE THE DATE
hahaha
Ferril though..you have nothing to worry about..she already accepted the first date with you this Sunday. Don't over analyz this situation. First off, just have fun. Second, have fun. And third..HAVE FUN!! Its a date...it doesn't matter if you go bullriding and eating tofu burgers...if you have fun, smile, and are confident without being needy..you'll be fine.
When to call? Why call? Should I call today? Tommorrow?
Bro....calm down...
Basically she had a valid reason for not making your bday...so don't look at it as a guage of low interest. REMEMBER, YOU ALREADY HAVE THE DATE, over analyzing will only screw things up.
Her missing your bday is a perfect opportunity to call her and give her a neg/hit and some c/f:
"Awww....so you think you're too cool to come to my birthday eh! hahaha..all good...I'll let you make it up to me with a lap dance when I pick you up this Sunay!"
Good C/F opener...you say it with the right attitude and a ****y yet non-arrogant goofy tone...it will come off smoothly and put her in a position to owe you one for missing out on your bday. This is a great way to confirm the date too.
Good luck bro..and relax and have fun with it. Be confident..and remember, you ALREADY HAVE THE DATE
thanks man i really really appreciate your help. i guess the reason im over thinking is because, i played it REAL cool with my ex and we had a LTR but in the end she became this vicious ***** that was just so mean to me.. and im sure the reason was because i became too comfortable with her and i gave her everything up front so she had nothing to try for
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=31426&highlight=first+date]
best first date adive tips on this board...props to grey fox...he has another post regarding 2nd date tips...do a search..hell..any of grey fox's advice is solid..
In the end...You'll be fine. Don't be needy...don't be a show off...relax bro..have fun..its a DATE!
best first date adive tips on this board...props to grey fox...he has another post regarding 2nd date tips...do a search..hell..any of grey fox's advice is solid..
In the end...You'll be fine. Don't be needy...don't be a show off...relax bro..have fun..its a DATE!
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
edited..the link works now
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You obviously have no clue about the proper attitude to have.
Of course this is not problem, because you will learn it soon!
The best thing you could do now is to call her, be confident and ask her out. Don't hesitate on the phone, be short and to the point.
She either goes out with you or not. Do you have anything to lose? Of course not. It can only get better from this point on.
PS: On my site there is an article about first dates. Check it out if you want.
Good luck!
Of course this is not problem, because you will learn it soon!
The best thing you could do now is to call her, be confident and ask her out. Don't hesitate on the phone, be short and to the point.
She either goes out with you or not. Do you have anything to lose? Of course not. It can only get better from this point on.
PS: On my site there is an article about first dates. Check it out if you want.
Good luck!