"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don juans and the huge egos.

SamTheHobit

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It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Yep. What a bunch of egotistical losers.

You should totally stop coming to this site. That'll teach them!!
 

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This site is starting to suck
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SoSuaveDude

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idk, but i will say this site is over-saturated with weirdos!
 

SamTheHobit

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Iceberg said:
Yep. What a bunch of egotistical losers.

You should totally stop coming to this site. That'll teach them!!
you have been a member since 2002 have you still not moved on with your life?
 

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SharinganUser said:
Why should anyone listen to you? You're a virgin.
LMAO!
 

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SamTheHobit said:
It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
lol 17 /thread
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm in the Mood

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SamTheHobit said:
It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
The non-juans have taken over the don juans.
 

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SamTheHobit said:
It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
I am sure you have a wonderful idea somewhere inside you, but it seems you couldn't quite word it correctly. I think you should try again later, because you haven't been able to word your toughts correctly IMO. It sounds kind of vague and somewhat of an insult, sorry! I can't really understand what you were trying to say man! Peace.
 

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After a year of dating you will like that too. The looser thing is damn wrong though.
 

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I got more class than most of them, ran with the best of them, forgave the less of them and blazed at the rest of them.

The real danger on this forum isn't our big egos, but the false information being spread by certain fools. Who comes on and says that 'pretty boy swimmers build' is more attractive to girls than masculine muscular builds. The name in itself gives it away, 'masculine', 'manly'. Some guys have been dropped on their heads as infants.

Then there are those that like to spark a reaction from a man. Then some guys with strong opinions on things another one may not agree with. But thats life.
 

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Ease said:
I got more class than most of them, ran with the best of them, forgave the less of them and blazed at the rest of them.

The real danger on this forum isn't our big egos, but the false information being spread by certain fools. Who comes on and says that 'pretty boy swimmers build' is more attractive to girls than masculine muscular builds. The name in itself gives it away, 'masculine', 'manly'. Some guys have been dropped on their heads as infants.

Then there are those that like to spark a reaction from a man. Then some guys with strong opinions on things another one may not agree with. But thats life.
You're right about what you said, but I think it's only half of it.

You ever realize how many threads end up going

"Yeah she's probably a b!tch/sl!t/bvtch/BPD chick anyways" (The BPD excuse used a lot)
"Good thing you got away from her, those women can really ruin someone's life! It's like most women are crazy."

Which seems awfully familiar to

"Yeah that guys just a jerk anyways"
"Yeah good thing you dumped him, he was disrespecting you girlll! It's like all men are jerks."

Instead of just giving advice we turned into a circle jerk of men patting each other on the back saying "It's not your fault, the women are all crazy! They're also all bvtches! You deserve better" much like the women we always mock.

Instead of man hating fembot b!tches, guys on this site are forming the exact opposite...which isn't too good either.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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This site is the perfect representation of the real world: lots of bull**** going round, but true gems can be found if you just open your eyes.
 

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SamTheHobit said:
It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
Ha! That one was almost funny. Dude if they have become "egotistical losers" then that is something they need to address themselves. Pointing your finger at them and insulting them is no way to address a problem.

You do have a good point though. Ego is a major problem and a road block to self-improvement (Well it is for me at least, and this is what you were getting at right?). Maybe you should start a thread on how to deal with ego? Maybe a tip or discussion rather than whining? Come on bro think "self-improvement" and forget the "egotistical" strangers you will never meet (They can also add to the conversation if you start a better worded thread).

SharinganUser said:
Why should anyone listen to you? You're a virgin.
What is wrong with virginity? Nothing radical happens after it's gone. It is an entirely different situation if you are scared of your sexuality though...

SamTheHobit said:
This site is starting to suck
How so? All the information is still here and there is very little to add on when it comes to women. This complaining about this site "sucking" isn't going to make it better. If you think it is starting to suck you have three (plausible) options.

1. Stop coming here.
2. Improve the site with your own insight instead of relying on others to do it for you.
3. Keep whining and get no where.

Choose wisely young SamTheHobit...

SamTheHobit said:
you have been a member since 2002 have you still not moved on with your life?
Staying on this site doesn't symbolize anything about "moving on with your life". I think I have learned everything I can from this site about attracting women and I've been here for half a year, but yet I still come here and learn every time. I came to this site expecting to get women, but yet discovered life instead. It seems like a second birth to me, a second chance to live. It is different if you are still here and haven't changed or improved your life at all. That would be a loser. Someone who lives the life of theory and philosophy instead of actually living. Philosophy is only a forge for your game, it isn't a refuge for you to live your life.

Besides, Iceberg has been one of the few people on this forum who is constantly giving out consistent advice and helping people out. How the hell is that a bad thing? You should applaud him for putting up with all the basic $hit that people constantly ask, when all they have to do is read the references on this site...

Ease said:
The real danger on this forum isn't our big egos, but the false information being spread by certain fools. Who comes on and says that 'pretty boy swimmers build' is more attractive to girls than masculine muscular builds. The name in itself gives it away, 'masculine', 'manly'. Some guys have been dropped on their heads as infants.
Hehe ego may not be the biggest problem, but it sure as hell is a big one. After all there is a difference between ****y and confident. One is based on outer reinforcements while the other comes from within. Which would you rather have?

As far as the swimmers build vs muscular build, women ARE more attracted to the muscular build, but you know what I say? Forget what women want and go for what you want. Quit living your life for others (like those women... you know... the d!ck pleasers...) and start living for yourself because in the end you alone are gonna be held responsible for yourself. Plus my area of work requires me to have what you would call "the swimmers build" (What I call the Bruce Lee build, not big but cut the **** up). There is nothing weak or 'unmanly' about it (my six pack speaks for itself :) Oh snap is that the 'ego' SamTheHobit was talking about!?!? Oh No!) Hehe and I'd like to see a buffed up meat head beat me or let alone finish an eight mile run. :rolleyes:

ArcBound said:
Instead of just giving advice we turned into a circle jerk of men patting each other on the back saying "It's not your fault, the women are all crazy! They're also all bvtches! You deserve better" much like the women we always mock.
True, it is because of the massive ego's that this site is creating. (Seriously where is the advice on controlling this mother ******? I'd hate to break out the bible or other 'classic' works to illustrate how dangerous your ego can be if not kept in check...) I think you are on to something though. I see it's roots in the 'progressive' society we live in (LMAO progressive society? HAHAHA society doesn't progress.) What are your thoughts on this circle jerk thing this site has going on?
 

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" It takes real confidence, real inner strength to be able to acknowledge your own flaws and have the presence of mind to overcome them realistically - to not be fooled by the ego into believing that faking your way to success will be anything other than failure and humiliation. It takes self esteem to realize that you have none in the first place. To be able to take a cold, hard look at yourself and see what your hangups are, then throw down with them. It takes true confidence to be able to walk up to a woman you are attracted to, get rejected, and still be exactly who you are. "
 

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^^^ this is vague. All we are talking about here is conceit. Let ego alone, it should not even be used in this context, hence there is absolutely no problem with having one unless it's indeed flawed in the majority of us here, which is hard to believe. Why would we be here in the first place, to make ourselves feel better? Do you think some people give advice because they are patronizing other members? Or because they enjoy helping?
 

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PapiChulo said:
^^^ this is vague. All we are talking about here is conceit. Let ego alone, it should not even be used in this context, hence there is absolutely no problem with having one unless it's indeed flawed in the majority of us here, which is hard to believe. Why would we be here in the first place, to make ourselves feel better? Do you think some people give advice because they are patronizing other members? Or because they enjoy helping?

Because they have to convince themselves they know what really works.

There is only one test. If you want to get laid (and biologically you do) and you aren't getting laid as much as you want - you are doing it wrong.


Now show me how many guys on this forum are at that level




Read this thread and pay attention to blitz (member here) he GOT it and is happily married


http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=420515


this is the TRUTH. Now look at how many guys (who spent lifetimes working out) got it wrong
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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