SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
you have been a member since 2002 have you still not moved on with your life?Iceberg said:Yep. What a bunch of egotistical losers.
You should totally stop coming to this site. That'll teach them!!
SamTheHobit said:you have been a member since 2002 have you still not moved on with your life?
LMAO!SharinganUser said:Why should anyone listen to you? You're a virgin.
lol 17 /threadSamTheHobit said:It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The non-juans have taken over the don juans.SamTheHobit said:It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
I am sure you have a wonderful idea somewhere inside you, but it seems you couldn't quite word it correctly. I think you should try again later, because you haven't been able to word your toughts correctly IMO. It sounds kind of vague and somewhat of an insult, sorry! I can't really understand what you were trying to say man! Peace.SamTheHobit said:It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
You're right about what you said, but I think it's only half of it.Ease said:I got more class than most of them, ran with the best of them, forgave the less of them and blazed at the rest of them.
The real danger on this forum isn't our big egos, but the false information being spread by certain fools. Who comes on and says that 'pretty boy swimmers build' is more attractive to girls than masculine muscular builds. The name in itself gives it away, 'masculine', 'manly'. Some guys have been dropped on their heads as infants.
Then there are those that like to spark a reaction from a man. Then some guys with strong opinions on things another one may not agree with. But thats life.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ha! That one was almost funny. Dude if they have become "egotistical losers" then that is something they need to address themselves. Pointing your finger at them and insulting them is no way to address a problem.SamTheHobit said:It seems the once confident don jouns has now become a bunch of egotistical bunch of losers. Am I the only one noticing this?
What is wrong with virginity? Nothing radical happens after it's gone. It is an entirely different situation if you are scared of your sexuality though...SharinganUser said:Why should anyone listen to you? You're a virgin.
How so? All the information is still here and there is very little to add on when it comes to women. This complaining about this site "sucking" isn't going to make it better. If you think it is starting to suck you have three (plausible) options.SamTheHobit said:This site is starting to suck
Staying on this site doesn't symbolize anything about "moving on with your life". I think I have learned everything I can from this site about attracting women and I've been here for half a year, but yet I still come here and learn every time. I came to this site expecting to get women, but yet discovered life instead. It seems like a second birth to me, a second chance to live. It is different if you are still here and haven't changed or improved your life at all. That would be a loser. Someone who lives the life of theory and philosophy instead of actually living. Philosophy is only a forge for your game, it isn't a refuge for you to live your life.SamTheHobit said:you have been a member since 2002 have you still not moved on with your life?
Hehe ego may not be the biggest problem, but it sure as hell is a big one. After all there is a difference between ****y and confident. One is based on outer reinforcements while the other comes from within. Which would you rather have?Ease said:The real danger on this forum isn't our big egos, but the false information being spread by certain fools. Who comes on and says that 'pretty boy swimmers build' is more attractive to girls than masculine muscular builds. The name in itself gives it away, 'masculine', 'manly'. Some guys have been dropped on their heads as infants.
True, it is because of the massive ego's that this site is creating. (Seriously where is the advice on controlling this mother ******? I'd hate to break out the bible or other 'classic' works to illustrate how dangerous your ego can be if not kept in check...) I think you are on to something though. I see it's roots in the 'progressive' society we live in (LMAO progressive society? HAHAHA society doesn't progress.) What are your thoughts on this circle jerk thing this site has going on?ArcBound said:Instead of just giving advice we turned into a circle jerk of men patting each other on the back saying "It's not your fault, the women are all crazy! They're also all bvtches! You deserve better" much like the women we always mock.
PapiChulo said:^^^ this is vague. All we are talking about here is conceit. Let ego alone, it should not even be used in this context, hence there is absolutely no problem with having one unless it's indeed flawed in the majority of us here, which is hard to believe. Why would we be here in the first place, to make ourselves feel better? Do you think some people give advice because they are patronizing other members? Or because they enjoy helping?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.