Don Juan crisis

[fieryheart]

Hey,

This might be long, bear with me. I'm new. Nice to meet you all. I need an answer for a question and discuss potential solutions with the more experienced Don Juans but i'm willing to listen from all perspectives.

I'm not really interested in women anymore, its just become a game to amuse myself. I find myself needing more actual intimacy rather than just gaming girls. I've been able to attract several attractive women, my last being a decent looking Brazillian-russian with a nice ass. I've just become mopey how women are so easily played, dress nice, have a nice chest/body and play the charismatic suave bad boy and boom, attention. 9/10ths of the work is done if you can pull a woman by your body alone.

Anyway, what I need help with is, some fresh perspective on this. I want, need and crave intimacy but I dont want it from girls that i've gamed, getting girls is easy enough, but getting a genuine catch seems to be the issue. I want a girl that whose personality I can appreciate but alot of them seem to be shallow *****es. Not that I dont mind shallows ****s but, I want something more. I friendzoned this girl that I thought I was actually into but I was turned off that she liked the persona rather than me itself. I dont really know guys? Has anyone been through this antipathy, help me.

 

[Legday]

i know how you feel except for that i havent kissed a girl before; do you lift? just wondering.

i wish i had a girl with a great personality too brah

 

[fieryheart]

Yes, I used to lift relatively advanced but that hadnt gotten me girls at first. So I realized that and I put lifiting on the backburner a bit and concentrated on practicing how to get better at talking to girls, and more importantly, have FUN with yourself. Practice with the ugly ones at first and build your confidence, once you're relatively confident, make it an every day thing and apply it to your every day life every day. Burn this into the back of your mind, you canNOT, and WILL not get a girl until you put your heart on the line and be able to talk, chat and have fun with them and ask for their number.

As for lifting I do deads, atg squats, bench, supersets of chinup,bicep curls and other shiz.

 

[GotED?]

I think what your dilemma is actually just finding 'maturity' and 'wisdom' with age.

The depth of emotions and intimacy shared with a woman is not something you can easily find.

There's plenty of men on SS here who values intimacy greatly vs. the other side who just wants to pump & dump.

In the end, it just depends on what type of soul and man you are and what you are ready for in life as well.

Enjoy what you NEED, not necessarily what you WANT.

Exodus

 

[CaptainSaveAh0]

Maybe you aren't looking in the right places. Where do you usually meet girls? I go out clubbing a lot so that definitely isn't the place I am going to find quality woman. If you go to school try meeting woman there. I am like you, I prefer intimacy rather than just game a girl and fvck nd chuck her. Quality woman are hard to come by, but they do exist... Keep looking

 

[Johnny Alias]

You need to meet them through mutual friends. I've often found this is the best way to go. Weeds out some of the crazies. Also, how old are you?

Any place can be considered corrupted. Truly. Churchgoer, schoolteacher... this is not to say that they aren't good women, but if a guy tells you not to go out with ANY women who do these things he's speaking from personal experience.

Clubs are a no though. Bars... eh... probably not good either unless you meet a gal that is keeping her sh1t together and not getting wasted.

If I were you I'd join some physical activities like volleyball, kickboxing, etc. Yoga is a good one as well. You know the girl takes care of herself, PROBABLY doesn't drink as much, and will likely continue to do these activities in the future.

It makes a difference. Watch out for the girls obviously trying to please you with doing any of the GOOD stuff as a one off. My ex hiked a 14er with me... and then *****ed about her knee hurting for a year. Just not a very active person. Look for good habits and you might have a good foundation.

 

[GotED?]

Try

http://www.meetup.com

Excellent place to meet women of your same interests if you live near a large city.

Exodus

 

[Bible_Belt]

9/10ths of the work is done if you can pull a woman by your body alone...but alot of them seem to be shallow *****es.

That sounds like a Deep Thought, by Jack Handey.

 

[Yewki]

I want a girl that whose personality I can appreciate but alot of them seem to be shallow *****es.

If you met a girl with a great personality but was only a 5/10 body on your scale would you be into her? And I mean that as a literal question too.

 

[Johnny Alias]

One other thing I have to ask... why is this a crisis? Why can't you just keep spinning plates and pay attention to warning signs until you find a good one?