"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wodan

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What should you do if a girl is very socially intelligent and tries to be dominant on a date? I can tell its not good, i dont like it, but i dont know a way 2 turn it around or kill it withought spoiling the mood, any advice on things to say or do will be much appreciated :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bible_Belt

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I say pick your battles. Maybe she has ocd or something. The whole date thing is just a pre-fvck ritual anyway. If she wants to think she is bossing you around, let her. Then her defenses will be down later. Follow her back into her place, then push her up against a wall and start making out with her. Then who is dominating whom?
 

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She's not really that type of girl, makes a man wait then goes into a relationship, I would do that normally though, im wondering if there are subtle ways 2 reverse the roll that more experienced guys are probably aware of
 

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She's not really that type of girl, makes a man wait then goes into a relationship,

That's her frame. Are you going to accept it, or set your own? I bet some other guy has had sex with her w/o a relationship. That means you can, too.
 

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Maybe you can hot/cold her... I mean set up a date to your preferences and if she declines then decline the invite to her and say your going out to have fun then. I would try to not be to torn up about her being dominate just relax and stay cool she might be throwing you a sh1t test who knows but IF she starts to contradict what you say or maybe you picked something to do with each other and she picks something else or say's some crap about how you have bad taste then you should really think about nexting her there and now or stand by your decision and if she still doesnt want to do it then next her....she will see that it's your way or the highway and she will have a lot more respect if given those 2 decisions.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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