You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nothing. Tell her to enjoy her singlehood. Women like her are narcisstic. "I dont want to get hurt" translates to "you arent a combination of Bo Jackson and Donald Trump, so get lost."progressive1 said:I met a chick a few days ago. scale 1-10, shes an 8. I ask her y she is single she tells me she doesnt want to get hurt. She also tells me she's single because she wants to be. Whut is a good comeback for that. I appreciate the help
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
no,i do not think that is true.JackPrescott said:Nothing. Tell her to enjoy her singlehood. Women like her are narcisstic. "I dont want to get hurt" translates to "you arent a combination of Bo Jackson and Donald Trump, so get lost."
again with this,you are beggin her in a technical sense.you are trying to weasel your way into her life.Rumpelstiltskin said:Tell her that if she is alone then no one would be there to heal her wound(s).
I've been hearing a lot of enlightened sayings today. This is one of them.whyme2008 said:i think these are just ideas guys pump into their minds.lets be realistic.i know many women who are like that.and this retreat from pursuin relationships is really a "shell" to protect the ego.
love never gets hurt,its ego that is hurt.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nighthawk said:"It'll only hurt a little bit."
You could try telling her not to be such a pussy... but really she's telling you she doesn't find you attractive so Next.
She is just making a statement about being single. What kind of comeback did you expect us to give you? "Girlfriend, you don't know what you are saying because I'm God's gift to women!"progressive1 said:I met a chick a few days ago. scale 1-10, shes an 8. I ask her y she is single she tells me she doesnt want to get hurt. She also tells me she's single because she wants to be. Whut is a good comeback for that.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This one made me laugh. Do it lightheartedly with a smile.Nighthawk said:"It'll only hurt a little bit."
SHE IS LETTING YOU KNOW THAT SHE DOESN NOT CONSIDER YOU relationship material... but if you chase long enough you might get to f her...progressive1 said:SHe agreed to go to the zoo wit me on a date. She even brought it up that we should hang out.