"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Doesn't saying when you free sound like your too avadadible ?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Yes it does. You don't tell her when you are free you ask her when SHE is free. Let her pick a range of days and you pick what works for you. If she gives you a range of days when you are busy. Just tell her you'll call again when she is more available.Thechamp said:
This is a good way to test her interest level. If she asks you when you are free, go ahead and tell her. If she changes her plans for you that is a VERY good sign. But the fact that she asked is a good sign as well. Just tell her you'll call her next week.
Mr_Maximus
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Telling her when you are free can make you seem more scarce if you have limited time and she would have to make herself available to you on your schedule.
In my opinion, if two people want to see each other, they will find and make time.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Heck, I've had girls with what later turned out to be fairly MILD interest still give me counter-offers. So you don't need to go out of your way to make yourself available.
If you fear being authentic around a woman, then you are engaging in insecure manipulation. No man should ever feel the need to do this. Also, women can see right through it because they invented it. :crackup:
When a "player" manipulates women, he appeals to her wishful thinking. The player just wants sex and the woman knows this, but she hopes its not true, and the player tells her he has more feelings than he really does.
On the flip side.. the beta loser does the opposite. He has the feelings, but he tries to pretend he is "alpha" and "in control". Women figure out he is a weak beta pretty fast, but they play along for the entertainment. They know a REAL alpha or player who is "in control" would of either f*cked them or moved on to another woman by now.
Tictac
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Then tell tell what you want to do and when.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.