"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Doesn't saying when you free sound like your too avadadible ?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Yes it does. You don't tell her when you are free you ask her when SHE is free. Let her pick a range of days and you pick what works for you. If she gives you a range of days when you are busy. Just tell her you'll call again when she is more available.Thechamp said:
This is a good way to test her interest level. If she asks you when you are free, go ahead and tell her. If she changes her plans for you that is a VERY good sign. But the fact that she asked is a good sign as well. Just tell her you'll call her next week.
Mr_Maximus
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Telling her when you are free can make you seem more scarce if you have limited time and she would have to make herself available to you on your schedule.
In my opinion, if two people want to see each other, they will find and make time.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Heck, I've had girls with what later turned out to be fairly MILD interest still give me counter-offers. So you don't need to go out of your way to make yourself available.
If you fear being authentic around a woman, then you are engaging in insecure manipulation. No man should ever feel the need to do this. Also, women can see right through it because they invented it. :crackup:
When a "player" manipulates women, he appeals to her wishful thinking. The player just wants sex and the woman knows this, but she hopes its not true, and the player tells her he has more feelings than he really does.
On the flip side.. the beta loser does the opposite. He has the feelings, but he tries to pretend he is "alpha" and "in control". Women figure out he is a weak beta pretty fast, but they play along for the entertainment. They know a REAL alpha or player who is "in control" would of either f*cked them or moved on to another woman by now.
Tictac
Banned
Then tell tell what you want to do and when.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.