"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Doesn't saying when you free sound like your too avadadible ?
- Thread starter Thechamp
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Yes it does. You don't tell her when you are free you ask her when SHE is free. Let her pick a range of days and you pick what works for you. If she gives you a range of days when you are busy. Just tell her you'll call again when she is more available.Thechamp said:
This is a good way to test her interest level. If she asks you when you are free, go ahead and tell her. If she changes her plans for you that is a VERY good sign. But the fact that she asked is a good sign as well. Just tell her you'll call her next week.
Mr_Maximus
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Telling her when you are free can make you seem more scarce if you have limited time and she would have to make herself available to you on your schedule.
In my opinion, if two people want to see each other, they will find and make time.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Heck, I've had girls with what later turned out to be fairly MILD interest still give me counter-offers. So you don't need to go out of your way to make yourself available.
If you fear being authentic around a woman, then you are engaging in insecure manipulation. No man should ever feel the need to do this. Also, women can see right through it because they invented it. :crackup:
When a "player" manipulates women, he appeals to her wishful thinking. The player just wants sex and the woman knows this, but she hopes its not true, and the player tells her he has more feelings than he really does.
On the flip side.. the beta loser does the opposite. He has the feelings, but he tries to pretend he is "alpha" and "in control". Women figure out he is a weak beta pretty fast, but they play along for the entertainment. They know a REAL alpha or player who is "in control" would of either f*cked them or moved on to another woman by now.
Tictac
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Then tell tell what you want to do and when.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.