"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"Doesn't do the dating thing"

Atreides05

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Hey DJs, long time lurker, first time poster.
Anyways I had a most puzzling experience last night. I'm at this party (I'm in college) and I'm talking to a couple of chicks, I'm not trying to work anything at this point tho, but then one of them introduces me to her other friend. She is gorgeous. Now not the type of hot that I would generally find out of my league, she had a different vibe goin on but she was definately hot. So I'm talkin to her, got my arms around her, she goes to a different college in the area, she love classic rock, she broke up with her boyfriend a while ago, and is a major stoner. PERFECT. So I think i'm putting on a good impression, she's smiling, yada yada. Her and her friends say they have to go, I pull out my phone and ask for her number. "I don't do the dating, phone number thing..." This boggled my mind. I asked her how then does she meet up with anyone, she says it depends on fate. I saw her cell in her pocket and told her to take my number just in case fate didn;t work but she insisted that she didn't do "the dating thing". Anyone ever experienced anything like that? I mean of course she could be lying, but anyone have any ideas?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SlaterT

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Originally posted by Atreides05
Hey DJs, long time lurker, first time poster.
Anyways I had a most puzzling experience last night. I'm at this party (I'm in college) and I'm talking to a couple of chicks, I'm not trying to work anything at this point tho, but then one of them introduces me to her other friend. She is gorgeous. Now not the type of hot that I would generally find out of my league, she had a different vibe goin on but she was definately hot. So I'm talkin to her, got my arms around her, she goes to a different college in the area, she love classic rock, she broke up with her boyfriend a while ago, and is a major stoner. PERFECT. So I think i'm putting on a good impression, she's smiling, yada yada. Her and her friends say they have to go, I pull out my phone and ask for her number. "I don't do the dating, phone number thing..." This boggled my mind. I asked her how then does she meet up with anyone, she says it depends on fate. I saw her cell in her pocket and told her to take my number just in case fate didn;t work but she insisted that she didn't do "the dating thing". Anyone ever experienced anything like that? I mean of course she could be lying, but anyone have any ideas?
i would have taken it as she just wanted to **** no strings attached but there ya go
 

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if she would have said that she doesn't do the dating thing AND gave you the phone number I would take that as a greenlight.

But with her refusing to give you the number, she is either rejecting you, or seeing if you are willing to chase her. Just ask yourself..is chasing her worth it? Then you will know what you should do.
 

Atreides05

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the problem is she goes to a different school, so I might never see her again.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Gonzalo

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No number, no interest (in "MOST" cases).

Perhaps you could have said as a last resort "I didn't ask you for a date, I asked you for your number" with a sly smile (ie, as to not sound like a little bytch), and seen what happened.


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