"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Doesn't do the dating thing"

Atreides05

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Hey DJs, long time lurker, first time poster.
Anyways I had a most puzzling experience last night. I'm at this party (I'm in college) and I'm talking to a couple of chicks, I'm not trying to work anything at this point tho, but then one of them introduces me to her other friend. She is gorgeous. Now not the type of hot that I would generally find out of my league, she had a different vibe goin on but she was definately hot. So I'm talkin to her, got my arms around her, she goes to a different college in the area, she love classic rock, she broke up with her boyfriend a while ago, and is a major stoner. PERFECT. So I think i'm putting on a good impression, she's smiling, yada yada. Her and her friends say they have to go, I pull out my phone and ask for her number. "I don't do the dating, phone number thing..." This boggled my mind. I asked her how then does she meet up with anyone, she says it depends on fate. I saw her cell in her pocket and told her to take my number just in case fate didn;t work but she insisted that she didn't do "the dating thing". Anyone ever experienced anything like that? I mean of course she could be lying, but anyone have any ideas?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SlaterT

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Originally posted by Atreides05
Hey DJs, long time lurker, first time poster.
Anyways I had a most puzzling experience last night. I'm at this party (I'm in college) and I'm talking to a couple of chicks, I'm not trying to work anything at this point tho, but then one of them introduces me to her other friend. She is gorgeous. Now not the type of hot that I would generally find out of my league, she had a different vibe goin on but she was definately hot. So I'm talkin to her, got my arms around her, she goes to a different college in the area, she love classic rock, she broke up with her boyfriend a while ago, and is a major stoner. PERFECT. So I think i'm putting on a good impression, she's smiling, yada yada. Her and her friends say they have to go, I pull out my phone and ask for her number. "I don't do the dating, phone number thing..." This boggled my mind. I asked her how then does she meet up with anyone, she says it depends on fate. I saw her cell in her pocket and told her to take my number just in case fate didn;t work but she insisted that she didn't do "the dating thing". Anyone ever experienced anything like that? I mean of course she could be lying, but anyone have any ideas?
i would have taken it as she just wanted to **** no strings attached but there ya go
 

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if she would have said that she doesn't do the dating thing AND gave you the phone number I would take that as a greenlight.

But with her refusing to give you the number, she is either rejecting you, or seeing if you are willing to chase her. Just ask yourself..is chasing her worth it? Then you will know what you should do.
 

Atreides05

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the problem is she goes to a different school, so I might never see her again.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gonzalo

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No number, no interest (in "MOST" cases).

Perhaps you could have said as a last resort "I didn't ask you for a date, I asked you for your number" with a sly smile (ie, as to not sound like a little bytch), and seen what happened.


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