Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Does your life have substance?

Substance

  • Yes

    Votes: 15 71.4%
  • No

    Votes: 6 28.6%

  • Total voters
    21

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Wyldfire

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My life definitely has substance. I have wonderful children, a job I truly enjoy and I can honestly say that I am a happy person. Of course, there are many places I want to go, things I want to do and all that...but I definitely feel blessed.
 

DJDamage

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At this very moment I feel as if though I am inside a bubble and I am trying to break free. The bubble is the barrier Iv'e placed back in the day to be in a comfert state of no pain, no risk, no change at all.

I realise that errors of my thinking that this has created my own prison and that as a human being, I am not advancing beyond my capabilites and that I am very close in breaking loose and letting go of the notion of security in favour of the danger and the unknown.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Most lives have substance by default. It may not be of the things that the person would prefer, but it's full of something.

An interesting question to ask is whether someone's life has purpose and what that may be.
 

TheMainMan

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At this very moment I feel as if though I am inside a bubble and I am trying to break free. The bubble is the barrier Iv'e placed back in the day to be in a comfert state of no pain, no risk, no change at all.

I feel exactly the same. Recently turned down a higher paid job for the security of my comfertable current job.

In the words of Colplay; 'Cursed missed opportunities'.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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PRMoon

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My life is a game at this point. I have few responsibilites and few loyalties. I watch the people come and go, read about the rights and wrongs of the world, and do my best to stay out of too much trouble. I work like everyone else and do my best to find ways of getting into a higher tax bracket.

Maybe if I had some kids like Fire I'd be more postive and optimistic about things... but I don't see that happening anytime soon. Till then, it's the endless waltz for me.
 

SELF-MASTERY

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not really, young without any responsibilities.

How does someone live a purposeful life. Do you have to find a cause like poverty and live to end it, or what?

For the next 10 yrs my goal is to have as many thrills as possible.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by SELF-MASTERY
not really, young without any responsibilities.

How does someone live a purposeful life. Do you have to find a cause like poverty and live to end it, or what?

For the next 10 yrs my goal is to have as many thrills as possible.
I find that having a happy and substantial life happens more readily when you purposely for your own gratification. It doesn't necessarily mean that you need to provide servitude to anyone else or some other cause.

To live purposely means living by your own standards and not solely on what society dictates. You're living by your purpose and now what you feel that other people would accept. It could be considered a cornerstone of the foundation of being a DJ.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Interpol
My life has substance abuse.
LOL

I can agree with this one 100%. ------> a lack of serious substance right now.
 
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