"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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does "vibe" matter?

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i am not very experienced with all of the venues where people might try picking up girls...like malls, clubs, grocery stores, libraries, etc
So, i was just curious if having a "vibe" that encourages the thought of meeting new people, matters to any extent?
In other words, we can find a different vibe in places like bars as compared to places like grocery stores/open areas like a campus etc. In bars people won't be totally surprised if they get hit on because that vibe is present. Now, does the presence of such a vibe affect your chances of having a successful approach?
Do people (or girls) have different mindsets in different kinds of venues?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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All I heard was blahbity blah, hippity bloo blah. No matter where you are, you probably have a chance. No one has the statistics for every venue, but I'd recommend starting where you are most comfortable.

Da Bears!
 
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Rex Man said:
All I heard was blahbity blah, hippity bloo blah. No matter where you are, you probably have a chance. No one has the statistics for every venue, but I'd recommend starting where you are most comfortable.

Da Bears!
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that makes sense. I always tend to overthink.
 
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