Bokanovsky
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Are you familiar with the adage: "Those who teach, can't do"?Hmm said:
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Does This Stuff Really Work?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
zekko
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Most seduction material is built around a short term mating strategy. Supposedly a lot of the early gurus studied what was effective for "naturals" - who were basically "players", or guys who were able to get a lot of women - again, for short term mating strategy.Hmm said:
In fact, since most gurus live a player type lifestyle, they end up teaching that, and even bias their material toward the idea that women are only really attracted to players (themselves).
Here's the thing, if you want to keep a girl around: You have to have actual value. That's where the self improvement advice is important. Pickup gurus teach you how to fake value, how to trick girls into thinking you have value. It doesn't matter that you don't really have that value, because you'll be gone by the time they figure it out. If you want to keep women, you actually have to build that value, not just fake it.