"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Does this stuff also work on relatively conservative, asian countries?

ColorBlind

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Hi im from the philippines, in which in my opinion, is a country which is relatively conservative. Ive been reading through this forum, and little by little ive learned and applied some of the ways of the DJ. Im 16 and in the 1st year of college.

what i want to know is that should i absolutely follow the rules? particularly ones involving kino, neg-hitting, and waiting for the girl to ask if we should go steady.

Issues:
1. Neg-hitting - works wonders for the beautiful ones, but to others with lesser self-esteem its another story. should i be more kinder to the insecure or should i continue neg-hitting every girl that i find even slightly attractive?

2. kino - in my opinion its working quite effectively, but some of my pals say its too much and rude, things that i do would include; poking her belly and ask if shes pregnant, touching her earring and grazing slightly her ears, grab her by the waist and tell her shes in my way, and telling her that her hands are small, grabs it, observes the proportion of her hands, arms and height then i jokingly push her hands back up against her face. should i tone my understanding of kino down? if i do, how should i limit it?

3. waiting for the girl to ask to go steady - well about 2 weeks ago, while i was on a date with this girl, a classmate of ours found us walking around, so when she was worrying if rumor gets out that she was with me at night, theyd think of her as someone thats not that pure. so i jokingly said "if that happens, id be forced to say that were together as a couple. then she said "i dont want you to be forced to do that" (i thought that she was insecure about me liking her that much, but i felt that she liked me). if it was my old self, id ask immediately for her to be my girlfriend at that point. but after reading the stuff here, i did nothing. since it should be her that would have to ask me first. so, should i disregard this rule?

advice and criticisms would be greatly appreciated :)
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just cut out the negging. Make everything natural. I live in Korea, where the girls are the most reserved I've ever met. There're heavily covered with layers of oppression and social structure that they expect every guy to carry their bags, pay for meals and generally act poossy whipped. Then the guys get them into bed and the girls pull the starfish. Worth all the work? I think not ha!

What do I do?

The complete opposite. I bring sex up in the first meeting, ask her how she likes it in bed, get her to buy me dinner, get her to hold my shopping, plenty of kino etc. Does it work? Yes ( maybe because I'm White) or because they don't know how to respond. Not sure about Pinoy girls but do they have massive b!tch shields? As in full body ones? Korean girls walk around looking miserable because my mate told that if they smile at people it makes them look easy!

The most effective thing is making what you do natural and part of your character. Next is what you do, and kino and being direct is what works for me.
 

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yeah i think maybe the problem is with my execution, that its not natural, since i couldnt even fathom the whole idea of the "ways of the DJ" til a month ago. maybe its a little awkward on me, i dont know, but it does have some success. at the moment im only applying DJ methods to classmates and those at my year level, mostly aged 15~16. most of us are virgins, including myself, at this age hopefully i can rid of this before this year ends though.
 
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