"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Does this stuff also work on relatively conservative, asian countries?

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Hi im from the philippines, in which in my opinion, is a country which is relatively conservative. Ive been reading through this forum, and little by little ive learned and applied some of the ways of the DJ. Im 16 and in the 1st year of college.

what i want to know is that should i absolutely follow the rules? particularly ones involving kino, neg-hitting, and waiting for the girl to ask if we should go steady.

Issues:
1. Neg-hitting - works wonders for the beautiful ones, but to others with lesser self-esteem its another story. should i be more kinder to the insecure or should i continue neg-hitting every girl that i find even slightly attractive?

2. kino - in my opinion its working quite effectively, but some of my pals say its too much and rude, things that i do would include; poking her belly and ask if shes pregnant, touching her earring and grazing slightly her ears, grab her by the waist and tell her shes in my way, and telling her that her hands are small, grabs it, observes the proportion of her hands, arms and height then i jokingly push her hands back up against her face. should i tone my understanding of kino down? if i do, how should i limit it?

3. waiting for the girl to ask to go steady - well about 2 weeks ago, while i was on a date with this girl, a classmate of ours found us walking around, so when she was worrying if rumor gets out that she was with me at night, theyd think of her as someone thats not that pure. so i jokingly said "if that happens, id be forced to say that were together as a couple. then she said "i dont want you to be forced to do that" (i thought that she was insecure about me liking her that much, but i felt that she liked me). if it was my old self, id ask immediately for her to be my girlfriend at that point. but after reading the stuff here, i did nothing. since it should be her that would have to ask me first. so, should i disregard this rule?

advice and criticisms would be greatly appreciated :)
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just cut out the negging. Make everything natural. I live in Korea, where the girls are the most reserved I've ever met. There're heavily covered with layers of oppression and social structure that they expect every guy to carry their bags, pay for meals and generally act poossy whipped. Then the guys get them into bed and the girls pull the starfish. Worth all the work? I think not ha!

What do I do?

The complete opposite. I bring sex up in the first meeting, ask her how she likes it in bed, get her to buy me dinner, get her to hold my shopping, plenty of kino etc. Does it work? Yes ( maybe because I'm White) or because they don't know how to respond. Not sure about Pinoy girls but do they have massive b!tch shields? As in full body ones? Korean girls walk around looking miserable because my mate told that if they smile at people it makes them look easy!

The most effective thing is making what you do natural and part of your character. Next is what you do, and kino and being direct is what works for me.
 

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yeah i think maybe the problem is with my execution, that its not natural, since i couldnt even fathom the whole idea of the "ways of the DJ" til a month ago. maybe its a little awkward on me, i dont know, but it does have some success. at the moment im only applying DJ methods to classmates and those at my year level, mostly aged 15~16. most of us are virgins, including myself, at this age hopefully i can rid of this before this year ends though.
 
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