the_govner
Don Juan
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if not... any tips?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Nope, disagreed.KontrollerX said:Nope.
If you live in the same area as that girl stuck in a LDR game her away from her imaginary friend.
Its completely endorsed here to do this.
What isn't endorsed here is engaging in a LDR yourself since its completely retarded.
This post seems like argument for the sake of argument but I'll respond anyway...comic_relief said:Nope, disagreed.
This site endorses being who you want to be, not what other people want us to become. Live by your own rules.
comic_relief
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Actually, your post endorses the original post that I wrote.KontrollerX said:This post seems like argument for the sake of argument but I'll respond anyway...
This site endorses guys take action to get what they want and not to wish for what they want to just magically fall in their lap.
If a guy sees a hot chick pining away over some guy who lives a billion miles away then the caring members on this site will tell that guy to go after what he wants which is that girl who is involved with an imaginary friend.
They will endorse this because the guy is clearly interested in her and the other guy is a billion miles away.
To not engage a chick like this is a potential opportunity wasted and if you don't take it someother guy who lives in your area with her will if her imaginary boyfriend doesn't show up soon to be with her in the flesh.
the_govner said:if not... any tips?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.