the_govner
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if not... any tips?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Does this site frown upon attracting women stuck in long distance relationships?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
KontrollerX
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Nope.
If you live in the same area as that girl stuck in a LDR game her away from her imaginary friend.
Its completely endorsed here to do this.
What isn't endorsed here is engaging in a LDR yourself since its completely retarded.
If you live in the same area as that girl stuck in a LDR game her away from her imaginary friend.
Its completely endorsed here to do this.
What isn't endorsed here is engaging in a LDR yourself since its completely retarded.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Nope, disagreed.KontrollerX said:
This site endorses being who you want to be, not what other people want us to become. Live by your own rules.
comic_relief
KontrollerX
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This post seems like argument for the sake of argument but I'll respond anyway...comic_relief said:
This site endorses guys take action to get what they want and not to wish for what they want to just magically fall in their lap.
If a guy sees a hot chick pining away over some guy who lives a billion miles away then the caring members on this site will tell that guy to go after what he wants which is that girl who is involved with an imaginary friend.
They will endorse this because the guy is clearly interested in her and the other guy is a billion miles away.
To not engage a chick like this is a potential opportunity wasted and if you don't take it someother guy who lives in your area with her will if her imaginary boyfriend doesn't show up soon to be with her in the flesh.
Maxtro
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I see nothing wrong in going after a girl who is in a LDR. Heck I'm trying to do it now. The problem is that she isn't single nor is she really taken. I can tell that she likes me a little bit and that will go up if I start spending time with her outside of school.
Unfortunately I know very little about girls and I can't really figure out how to get closer to her. If she was single it would be easier but I'll keep going till some things come to me.
As for tips, I'd post some when I get her
Unfortunately I know very little about girls and I can't really figure out how to get closer to her. If she was single it would be easier but I'll keep going till some things come to me.
As for tips, I'd post some when I get her
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
WWRWS?
(What Would Ralph Wiggums Say?)
"Having pen pals is fun!"
http://animatedtv.about.com/library/graphics/ralphnose.jpg
(What Would Ralph Wiggums Say?)
"Having pen pals is fun!"
http://animatedtv.about.com/library/graphics/ralphnose.jpg
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I used to have a pen pal, back when I was Ralph's age. Girls are funny creatures though. They can get their emotional needs fulfilled through a pen pal. As for the guy, I can't imagine why a guy would do that to himself. I wouldn't be surprised if she found out that he was cheating on her.
comic_relief
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Actually, your post endorses the original post that I wrote.KontrollerX said:
A person must reexamine the values and see if they are correct or incorrect.
Most people would say doing that is bad, but if you see nothing wrong with it then go for it. Personally, I disagree with stealing another guys girlfriend, but if that is what you are after, then go for it.
Besides, if you would to try to game a girl that has an LDR then go for it, it is still up in the air whether she will go after the guy.
comic_relief
Rhoto
Master Don Juan
the_govner said:
The question is do you? Who gives a rats-ass what a bunch of screen names on the intra-webz think?
I recommend having a few LDR's. They won't workout but the weekend sex can be pretty fricking great when they come to town or you go to visit
Make sure they are from interesting places to visit. Its like built in tourism with a **** buddy built in. I will always relish the experience and have had sex with girls from many different states and in many different states!
Make sure they are from interesting places to visit. Its like built in tourism with a **** buddy built in. I will always relish the experience and have had sex with girls from many different states and in many different states!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
As much as I like this site, seeking approval here isn't the way to go about living your own life.
Personally I don't like LDRs (having FBs in another town is something else though). Most of my breakups have been due to the relationship becoming a LDR because of circumstances.
Personally I don't like LDRs (having FBs in another town is something else though). Most of my breakups have been due to the relationship becoming a LDR because of circumstances.
KontrollerX
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"Actually, your post endorses the original post that I wrote."
As did the post you initially took contention with.
Again.
Argument for the sake of argument.
And probably based on a misunderstanding at that.
I answered the topic creators question from the perspective that the topic creator wants to get a girl that is in a LDR and wonders if the site frowns on that.
The site doesn't frown on that because...
1. The guy is being the man he wants to be in going after this chick. (which keeps in line with what you said)
And
2. The chick is stuck in an imaginary fantasy land relationship which is completely retarded for anyone to engage in. I have repeatedly seen tons of posters here ie the people that make up the site endorse going after a chick that is in one of these as being an ok thing to do which also influenced my answer as being something "the site endorses".
You could just as easily say you and some other members here don't endorse doing this and you would also be correct to say that the site doesn't endorse this based on your view and the members who agree with your point of view.
Bottom line is there are many different takes and competing viewpoints this site endorses and anyone would be correct in saying that the site endorses any one of those points when a person asks if it endorses this, that or the other thing.
The guy is wondering if the site frowns on him going after a chick in an LDR and from my perspective and observations it doesn't and from your perspective and observations it does.
So again.
Pointless argument.
As did the post you initially took contention with.
Again.
Argument for the sake of argument.
And probably based on a misunderstanding at that.
I answered the topic creators question from the perspective that the topic creator wants to get a girl that is in a LDR and wonders if the site frowns on that.
The site doesn't frown on that because...
1. The guy is being the man he wants to be in going after this chick. (which keeps in line with what you said)
And
2. The chick is stuck in an imaginary fantasy land relationship which is completely retarded for anyone to engage in. I have repeatedly seen tons of posters here ie the people that make up the site endorse going after a chick that is in one of these as being an ok thing to do which also influenced my answer as being something "the site endorses".
You could just as easily say you and some other members here don't endorse doing this and you would also be correct to say that the site doesn't endorse this based on your view and the members who agree with your point of view.
Bottom line is there are many different takes and competing viewpoints this site endorses and anyone would be correct in saying that the site endorses any one of those points when a person asks if it endorses this, that or the other thing.
The guy is wondering if the site frowns on him going after a chick in an LDR and from my perspective and observations it doesn't and from your perspective and observations it does.
So again.
Pointless argument.