"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Does this happen to you?

Baruch

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In the beginning when I start seeing a girl and after I sleep with her, I have the upper hand. She will text me alot, call me, etc. At that point I like to cut it off with the girl and not get into anything serious. I'll tell you why now.

Once I get more emotionally involved and I don't get the same attention as I used to think I did, I get more possesive trying to find out (WHY?)

I hate to get this way, therefore I usually like to only know a girl for a brief moment, and not get emotionally involved.This happends to me all the time the this jealousy will only lead to trouble. Yesterday she got mad and told me that lately I've been asking more about what is she doing and who did she go out with and that I remind her alot of her exes.

At first I do not get this way, but like I said if I noticed slight changes, that I do not like. If I don't get the same attention from her, I'll get pissed.

I have enough hobbies, friends, social life and work to keep me occupied.

How do I avoid doing this? And how do I get her to be as eager to call/text me like she used to be?

Because lately, I feel like I need to make more of the effort. Even though, she got pissed at me for not making an effort to go see her last week when I was going to sleep instead of meeting her somewhere.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"How do I avoid doing this? And how do I get her to be as eager to call/text me like she used to be?"

get more girlfriends, it will give you less time for each one, the less time you give a girl that diggs you the more eagar she will be to talk to you when you do have time, plus you dont care as much about what she does, but still act like you care in other ways, but don't ever ask questions like who are you going with, you don't want her asking you questions like that do you?
 

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thats good, and when you do talk to her act like you are sorry for not calling her because you were so busy, never ask her why she didn't call, it makes you out to be needy, if i'm waiting for a girl to call me and she never does, the next day or a few days later I'll apolagize for falling asleep and missing her call, even though she never did(if its a house phone) sometimes they will lie and act like they did call, thats when you next them
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NSUballer

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Yea that happens to me too. But Im not a jealous person. In the beginning of relationships people get excited about being with someone new. That feeling slowly subsides. Not to say she gets less excited about you.
 
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