"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Baruch

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In the beginning when I start seeing a girl and after I sleep with her, I have the upper hand. She will text me alot, call me, etc. At that point I like to cut it off with the girl and not get into anything serious. I'll tell you why now.

Once I get more emotionally involved and I don't get the same attention as I used to think I did, I get more possesive trying to find out (WHY?)

I hate to get this way, therefore I usually like to only know a girl for a brief moment, and not get emotionally involved.This happends to me all the time the this jealousy will only lead to trouble. Yesterday she got mad and told me that lately I've been asking more about what is she doing and who did she go out with and that I remind her alot of her exes.

At first I do not get this way, but like I said if I noticed slight changes, that I do not like. If I don't get the same attention from her, I'll get pissed.

I have enough hobbies, friends, social life and work to keep me occupied.

How do I avoid doing this? And how do I get her to be as eager to call/text me like she used to be?

Because lately, I feel like I need to make more of the effort. Even though, she got pissed at me for not making an effort to go see her last week when I was going to sleep instead of meeting her somewhere.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"How do I avoid doing this? And how do I get her to be as eager to call/text me like she used to be?"

get more girlfriends, it will give you less time for each one, the less time you give a girl that diggs you the more eagar she will be to talk to you when you do have time, plus you dont care as much about what she does, but still act like you care in other ways, but don't ever ask questions like who are you going with, you don't want her asking you questions like that do you?
 

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thats good, and when you do talk to her act like you are sorry for not calling her because you were so busy, never ask her why she didn't call, it makes you out to be needy, if i'm waiting for a girl to call me and she never does, the next day or a few days later I'll apolagize for falling asleep and missing her call, even though she never did(if its a house phone) sometimes they will lie and act like they did call, thats when you next them
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yea that happens to me too. But Im not a jealous person. In the beginning of relationships people get excited about being with someone new. That feeling slowly subsides. Not to say she gets less excited about you.
 
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