"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Does this happen to you?

Baruch

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In the beginning when I start seeing a girl and after I sleep with her, I have the upper hand. She will text me alot, call me, etc. At that point I like to cut it off with the girl and not get into anything serious. I'll tell you why now.

Once I get more emotionally involved and I don't get the same attention as I used to think I did, I get more possesive trying to find out (WHY?)

I hate to get this way, therefore I usually like to only know a girl for a brief moment, and not get emotionally involved.This happends to me all the time the this jealousy will only lead to trouble. Yesterday she got mad and told me that lately I've been asking more about what is she doing and who did she go out with and that I remind her alot of her exes.

At first I do not get this way, but like I said if I noticed slight changes, that I do not like. If I don't get the same attention from her, I'll get pissed.

I have enough hobbies, friends, social life and work to keep me occupied.

How do I avoid doing this? And how do I get her to be as eager to call/text me like she used to be?

Because lately, I feel like I need to make more of the effort. Even though, she got pissed at me for not making an effort to go see her last week when I was going to sleep instead of meeting her somewhere.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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steveoo5

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"How do I avoid doing this? And how do I get her to be as eager to call/text me like she used to be?"

get more girlfriends, it will give you less time for each one, the less time you give a girl that diggs you the more eagar she will be to talk to you when you do have time, plus you dont care as much about what she does, but still act like you care in other ways, but don't ever ask questions like who are you going with, you don't want her asking you questions like that do you?
 

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thats good, and when you do talk to her act like you are sorry for not calling her because you were so busy, never ask her why she didn't call, it makes you out to be needy, if i'm waiting for a girl to call me and she never does, the next day or a few days later I'll apolagize for falling asleep and missing her call, even though she never did(if its a house phone) sometimes they will lie and act like they did call, thats when you next them
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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NSUballer

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Yea that happens to me too. But Im not a jealous person. In the beginning of relationships people get excited about being with someone new. That feeling slowly subsides. Not to say she gets less excited about you.
 
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