"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What should i make of girls rubbing against me at the bar area? I was sitting at the bar with my friend and this group of girls who were with some guys who were buying them drinks, kept hanging out right in front of us. The guys were ****heads mostly and i had to tell one of the guys to backup, but some chick kept seemingly intentionally rubbing her ass or leg against me while she was talking to some dude. Its not the first time its happened and that chick didnt leave with that guy. Im just not sure if its her way of hitting on me, or if the bar is just crowded.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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denverfan110

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regardless you're thinking too much

you wont know if she has interest unless you actually talk to her come on man
 

danthemann

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i already know she was interested that wasnt my question dip****.
 

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danthemann said:
What should i make of girls rubbing against me at the bar area? I was sitting at the bar with my friend and this group of girls who were with some guys who were buying them drinks, kept hanging out right in front of us. The guys were ****heads mostly and i had to tell one of the guys to backup, but some chick kept seemingly intentionally rubbing her ass or leg against me while she was talking to some dude. Its not the first time its happened and that chick didnt leave with that guy. Im just not sure if its her way of hitting on me, or if the bar is just crowded.

If you think the chick is actually trying to get your attention I'd smile then turn around and say: Excuse me but I'm not sure if it's customary where you come from to rub asses as a way of saying hello but where I come we just smile and say hello! Haha (Then take it from there.)

OR:

Are you a magician? Because if you keep rubbing on me like that the 50 cents I have in my pocket is going to turn into a roll of quarters any minute now. lol

OR: Are you getting off at the next stop too? Because damn I feel like I'm riding Mass transit the way people keep dry hvmping my leg in here! lol

Any ridiculous silly line. IF you think the chick is trying to get your attention and it just isn't crowded.
 

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Your current mindset of wondering whether a girl is hitting on you is not the best mindset. Always assume they are attracted to you. Always assume that they are trying to get your attention. Especially in situations like this. Yes, this was her way. Then these questions go away. If you open them and they act weird, it is their problem and they don't know how to do the male/female dance. On to the next who can handle her ****.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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danthemann said:
i already know she was interested that wasnt my question dip****.
Then why are you asking stupid questions?
 

sylvester the cat

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danthemann said:
i already know she was interested that wasnt my question dip****.

No you didn't know she was interested. Otherwise you wouldn't have said:

danthemann said:
Im just not sure if its her way of hitting on me, or if the bar is just crowded.
 

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Yes that was her way of hitting on you. No girl would do that unless she wanted to get your attention.
 

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LorenzoVonM said:
Your current mindset of wondering whether a girl is hitting on you is not the best mindset. Always assume they are attracted to you. Always assume that they are trying to get your attention. Especially in situations like this. Yes, this was her way. Then these questions go away. If you open them and they act weird, it is their problem and they don't know how to do the male/female dance. On to the next who can handle her ****.
:up:

If a girl was doing that to me, I'd get her attention, and with a smirk and locked eyes I would have said something along the lines, "you wet yet?" And then play on her response. Like he said, she'll either do the dance or not, whatever. Improvise. Laugh it off.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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