"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Does the world not like DJ's?

lYlasTer

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I'm on a path to becoming a DJ. In the past two weeks, I've approached five HB 8.0+. The very first day of meeting them I'll end it with "What's your number?". All five of them tell me they have boyfriends. This is not unusual because I go to Ga Tech where it's a sausage party. I'm talking to my friends about this, and they all say the same thing. I'm coming on too strong. Both the guys and girls encourage me to get to know the girls a little better, then ask them out. Girls don't like guys that are too forward and it makes it obvious what you want.

What the **** is this? No wonder the world is full of AFC's.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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doctoroxygen

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The world loves Don Juans. There's a post somewhere on this site that lists the reasons why a girl tells you she has a boyfriend. Most likely, at this point in the development of your game, they're telling you this because you haven't triggered attraction in them. Just keep trying your stuff till you get it down, and eventually they'll tell you they have a boyfriend so you understand the need for discretion when you bust sperms on her face.
 

Don_Joffe

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If I were an AFC or anything but a Don Juan Id be pretty irritated if I knew a Don Juan had just walked into the room.
If I was a girl Id never date a Don Juan.

Don Juans are not liked but the key to being one is TO NOT tel anyone that you are.
 

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Originally posted by Don_Joffe

If I was a girl Id never date a Don Juan.

Don Juans are not liked but the key to being one is TO NOT tel anyone that you are.
your getting the wrong idea of a don juan.
firstly, a don juan should be liked and respected by all (most), to the point that others may be jealous of a don juan. if you're a don juan, you're everything you want to be. successful, happy, fun, outgoing, smart... people won't like you? come on..

if you are a proper don juan, any girl would love to date you. you'd be successful, happy, fun, outgoing, smart, passionate, loyal, have your own interests, romantic.

don joffe, i think you are confusing don juans and players.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don_Joffe

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quest: Ya your right I was thinking of a Don as a player, and they are totally different. My bad.
 

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It has nothing to do with asking her out.

when you meet somoene..for the 1st time.

its about creating an environment for the best way to create attraction.

thats why being FUNNY helps..because it relaxes people...when people laugh it releases endorphins that make u feel better, smile, make eye contact, have small talk, sound like ur smart, DO NOT TALK ABOUT URSELF, dont be afraid to be provacative, and make some physical contact..all within 3 min..then give an awkward silence chance, look at her reaction to it.

is she smiling?
is she touching or taping, swirling her hair with her finger? ALL good signs.

if she looks interested...number closer.

also..keep practicing
 

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Even taking into consideration the difference between DJs and players, there are still a lot of people that wouldn't like DJs.

Few people like themselves enough just to live on the same planet as a successful, happy, fun, outgoing, and smart guy with a great body who has sex every other day.
 

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Being a DJ is more then just a practice. It's a mentality, an instinct, an art, and more packaged together. The world can't go without DJ's we're a product of evolution with society.
Being a DJ means haveing the ability to adapt to your sitution whatever the case may be. You should be able to at least create some postitive situations in which you should have some chance at sucess with a woman if you play your cards right.
Being a DJ teaches you how to play hold em' in the dating game. You've got to know how and when to play the cards you are delt, and how much you should wager in certain situations. Most importantly you've got to know how not to chase your loses and know that if you're down you can clean up and swing the game back in your favor with smart play.

500
 

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People love Don Juan's when you're in a social situation such as work, uni, school or dancing class whatever.

But girls dislike Don Juan's when you meet them in public and try to number close before you obtain deep rapport.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tha Realnezz

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For real most of them flake out at first.It's annoying as fawk.B!tch there's almost zero chance of you seeing me again why don;t you just ante up?

That's why I only go after chics that give me signals.
 
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