See? There is this girl in my classes who I have gotten to know pretty well over the last couple of weeks. She know that i am into her becfause of the stuff i do around her like kino and mirroring. Not so much C&F because she is a pretty shy girl. Well i was talknig to her and she said that if she didnt like this one guy, she would go out with me. he doesnt go to our shcool any more and is like a hour drive away and she only talkns to him online. Help.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Does she want me?
- Thread starter WOW1826
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Clownpaint
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What?!?
You're prepared to play second fiddle to some spaz who live an hour away?
Either get with her NOW or tell her to sling her hook NOW.
You're prepared to play second fiddle to some spaz who live an hour away?
Either get with her NOW or tell her to sling her hook NOW.
Docs
Banned
Let's review.
SHE LIKES YOU
YOU HAVE THE CONNECTION
SHE'S SHY
....oh..she has a guy online she likes too.
That's 3 versus 1 for you.
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Start a conversation about shopping, see if she clicks on it. If she's into movies, ask her what her favorite movie is and what she'd like to see. If you can pull the cuddly girl out of her, your house.
The point is, it's not to directly ask her, but to have a topic where you can say "We're going." and she's so caught up in the topic that she says Yes. It's the Yes factor, and I have to find that post.
SHE LIKES YOU
YOU HAVE THE CONNECTION
SHE'S SHY
....oh..she has a guy online she likes too.
That's 3 versus 1 for you.
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Start a conversation about shopping, see if she clicks on it. If she's into movies, ask her what her favorite movie is and what she'd like to see. If you can pull the cuddly girl out of her, your house.
The point is, it's not to directly ask her, but to have a topic where you can say "We're going." and she's so caught up in the topic that she says Yes. It's the Yes factor, and I have to find that post.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
if she liked you more, she would choose you over him.
dont be her number two choice.
come on, who wants to be the second pick?
move on, next!
dont be her number two choice.
come on, who wants to be the second pick?
move on, next!
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Exactly. If she show inerest in you later, tell her that you are with someone else and if you don't like the person you are with, then you could go out with her. This is being sarcastic of course, then ater saying this, next her sorry butt.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
JayUK
Don Juan
yeah man, this dude might not even exist! You gotta not be bothered about this other dude, show her your awesome, a man needs to know when to make his move.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Does she like me?
Who cares? Get the number or date or whatever!
Agreed with what Penkitten said. spin more plates and don't get oneitis.
comic_relief
Who cares? Get the number or date or whatever!
Agreed with what Penkitten said. spin more plates and don't get oneitis.
comic_relief
Nah, I think she's playing with you.....she even said one of the dumbest lie lines that I've ever heard, "If I don't like this other guy, then I'll go out with you".....WHAT.....come on......you should have said something ****y and funny....right now she's the one that has got you on the hook...and not visa versa...bad stuff.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
dont be like that
you know that we reply to your threads just like anyone elses to watch your back. anyone can have a minute of uncertainity. we all have.
if one of us says something smart, its to snap your back to yourself. its not to be mean.
Dimebag_Darrell
Banned
you should just bang her and then just be friends
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Sounds like a pretty ****ty excuse out of saying she doesn't like you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
she isnt trying to burn bridges, she wants to keep him on the back burner. its common thing that people do, but it doesnt make it right. its wrong and it hurts when you get put on the burner and dont realise it.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
Ok.. let me rephrase. It sounds like a ****ty way of saying I'll like you when I find out the other guy doesn't like me.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
exactly however it is a good line to use if you are in her shoes, because for just a moment it kinda worked.