"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Does she want me or what?

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There's this waitress at a restaurant near where i work. I'm not even that flirty with her but one day i was making small talk and making jokes about how she only works 2 days a week so she has to work harder than the other girls and she told me she has a night job at this nice place in town called "The Butcher Shop"

Later that night I was out with some friends and just by coincidence they wanted to go to the butcher shop to eat. I saw her there and we made jokes about me stalking her and stuff.

So flash forward to today I was in the restaurant near my work and we were talking about crappy pictures on facebook and she said "I've got a facebook" (alluding that I should add her on facebook i'm assuming) then later on she said "Are you coming by the butcher shop tonight? I'm working" and I said "No I don't really feel like stalking you tonight" and she was like "aw come on I never got to wait on you"

Then as I was leaving she said "remember butcher shop tonight come see me"

Does she want me or does she just want a big tip? I mean I guess I always tip decent but i doubt she'd go through that much trouble for a tip... right?

Isn't "come see me" kind of like some kinda chick code?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don't go, stay away, in fact don't see her for about a week minimum, then you'll find out.
 

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if you have other things to do, don't go.
but if ur jsut gonna be sitting on ur @ss all night, then why not?

just make sure you didn't go because she wanted you to go, make it known that you made your own decision to come.

But if i were you, and she had my phone #, i wouldn't go.
If she didn't have my number, then i'd go.
 

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We don't have each others number. This was the first time she's ever acted like this... I'm not going to go, in fact i'm still wondering if she's into me or what...

I'll find out more on thursday when I go in there again. I'll probably mention it being valentines day and see if she has a date.
 

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If you go you'll have your answer whether it plays in you favor or not.

EX the valentines idea because it sounds lame and desperate.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I wouldn't do the Valentine's day thing. It's too soon to bring up that sort of stuff. It could work, but from my personal experience it's a bit needy.

Right now, there's not really sufficient information to tell that she's into you. There is a possibility, but she could also just be a friendly person. Whatever you do, don't visit her on Valentine's Day. Hit her up at the Butcher Shop (ehhh, that sounded wrong) next week and ask her out on a date. That would be my course of action.
 

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its irrelevant whether she does or doesn't. only way to find out is if u go
 

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DonGorgon said:
that is so hard to do when yo like a woman, its like you have to do the opposite of what you want to....

It's not too hard when you've got 3 other chicks on your plate and she's just another option ;)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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