"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Does she want me or what?

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There's this waitress at a restaurant near where i work. I'm not even that flirty with her but one day i was making small talk and making jokes about how she only works 2 days a week so she has to work harder than the other girls and she told me she has a night job at this nice place in town called "The Butcher Shop"

Later that night I was out with some friends and just by coincidence they wanted to go to the butcher shop to eat. I saw her there and we made jokes about me stalking her and stuff.

So flash forward to today I was in the restaurant near my work and we were talking about crappy pictures on facebook and she said "I've got a facebook" (alluding that I should add her on facebook i'm assuming) then later on she said "Are you coming by the butcher shop tonight? I'm working" and I said "No I don't really feel like stalking you tonight" and she was like "aw come on I never got to wait on you"

Then as I was leaving she said "remember butcher shop tonight come see me"

Does she want me or does she just want a big tip? I mean I guess I always tip decent but i doubt she'd go through that much trouble for a tip... right?

Isn't "come see me" kind of like some kinda chick code?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don't go, stay away, in fact don't see her for about a week minimum, then you'll find out.
 

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if you have other things to do, don't go.
but if ur jsut gonna be sitting on ur @ss all night, then why not?

just make sure you didn't go because she wanted you to go, make it known that you made your own decision to come.

But if i were you, and she had my phone #, i wouldn't go.
If she didn't have my number, then i'd go.
 

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We don't have each others number. This was the first time she's ever acted like this... I'm not going to go, in fact i'm still wondering if she's into me or what...

I'll find out more on thursday when I go in there again. I'll probably mention it being valentines day and see if she has a date.
 

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If you go you'll have your answer whether it plays in you favor or not.

EX the valentines idea because it sounds lame and desperate.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I wouldn't do the Valentine's day thing. It's too soon to bring up that sort of stuff. It could work, but from my personal experience it's a bit needy.

Right now, there's not really sufficient information to tell that she's into you. There is a possibility, but she could also just be a friendly person. Whatever you do, don't visit her on Valentine's Day. Hit her up at the Butcher Shop (ehhh, that sounded wrong) next week and ask her out on a date. That would be my course of action.
 

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its irrelevant whether she does or doesn't. only way to find out is if u go
 

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DonGorgon said:
that is so hard to do when yo like a woman, its like you have to do the opposite of what you want to....

It's not too hard when you've got 3 other chicks on your plate and she's just another option ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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