Me and my ex-gf dated for a couple years but she broke up with me a little over a month ago. We are still fvcking despite the fact we broke up. Well Halloween night I had a ONS and I didn't wear a condom but am giong to set up an appointment to get tested tomorrow. I really want get back together with my ex. Does she deserve to know or is it none of her business. I'm really stressing out over this because I am afraid if I tell her she will want nothing to do with me anymore.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Does she need to know?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
As long as youre clean i say **** it.
WC2
Master Don Juan
You know what, the old me who had nothing to hide and told the brutal truth to just about everyone would say, "Yes, f*ck it I'm a straight up person."bud_2005 said:Me and my ex-gf dated for a couple years but she broke up with me a little over a month ago. We are still fvcking despite the fact we broke up. Well Halloween night I had a ONS and I didn't wear a condom but am giong to set up an appointment to get tested tomorrow. I really want get back together with my ex. Does she deserve to know or is it none of her business. I'm really stressing out over this because I am afraid if I tell her she will want nothing to do with me anymore.
Years later, I'm still the same brutally truthful person, but let me give you this advice that I HAVE learned :
DO NOT tell other women about what you have done in the past. This information becomes ammunition once your girl wants to get back at you.
I've been in and out of stupid relationships and long bouts with EX's.
I'm telling you, I'm telling you, I'm telling you, there is no good in spilling the beans to any woman. Whenever you fight she will bring up the past and blame you for it. Whenever she feels she wants to f*ck someone else and take a break, she will cite your past behavior as an excuse for her to do the same.
It's no good.
No matter how guilty you feel initially, it will fade away. You should feel better knowing your girl has probably lied to you about a few things too. Big deal, you weren't with her so drop it.
Also-- WHY are you getting back with your EX if SHE broke up with you? I hope you have a damn good explanation, because no good ever came of a guy running back to a girl who got rid of him.
Are you positive nothing at all good can come from it? I was thinking maybe she would get jealous and maybe want me a little more. I still want to be with her and she still wants to fvck me so it's possilbe we could get back together.
I didn't wear a condom because we didn't have one.
I didn't wear a condom because we didn't have one.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
fourblueballs
Don Juan
what is wrong w/ a trip to the store to get some? Gas station ect.
Better to be safe the sorry. Seriously!
Better to be safe the sorry. Seriously!
WC2
Master Don Juan
I'm positive. The little satisfaction you may get out of gaining the upper hand for a short time will be belittled by the numerous amounts of fights it will cause. Plain and simple, she does not need to know about it. If she gets some hard evidence and finds out about it, then fine you can admit it.bud_2005 said:Are you positive nothing at all good can come from it? I was thinking maybe she would get jealous and maybe want me a little more. I still want to be with her and she still wants to fvck me so it's possilbe we could get back together.
I didn't wear a condom because we didn't have one.
I once thought I was real slick, telling me EX all the girls I got with. I even told her I f-ed one of her good friends. First she was extremely angry, then jealous for a short time, and then she was angry the rest of the time with me. It gives her leverage to start doing things you don't want her to do. Don't give it to her. You don't need to brag about pvssy, not cool.
Come on dude, if she told you she slept with a 6'2 Italian guy in the next room without a condom, would that turn you on?bud_2005 said:Are you positive nothing at all good can come from it?
"Hi ex, I hate to tell you this but I feel I should. I slept with another girl at Halloween and saw her naked and put it inside of her without a condom. However, I was thinking of you the entire time I was having sex with her and after we finished having sex, I really wanted to get back together with you."
"Wow, I feel so special, I think I'm falling in love with you all over again."
It seems you just want a clear conscience on this.