"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Does She Like You in 2017? Here is the #1 Indicator of Interest

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Gentlemen, the stats are in. After my recent 5 year study on romantic texting habits of beautiful women (born 1991-1997) I have observed the single most important statistic in 2017 regarding how much your woman likes you:

The #1 IOI is the number of times she initiates a text conversation per week. That means she is the first one to text that day.
  • Less than 2 initiations per week? Mildly interested.
  • 2 initiations per week? Interested.
  • More than 2 initiations per week? Highly interested.
Simply sit back and watch which girls are texting you. Never initiate more than they do, except to ask them out (especially early in the relationship).

This statistic will change slightly over time. It's a direct barometer of her interest level.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Interesting point,I reckon phone calls and emails also count yes?
 

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So, if she ghosts you to get your attention away from other plates...does that count?:p
 

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Mine just called me from the liquor store, she wanted to know if I drank Jack or Jim Beam......does that mean she is falling for me or she just wants to get me drunk and use me for my penis? o_O

Big Neil you could combine your research skills with your programming ability and put the Pew Research group out of business. haha

Have a good weekend.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Howie she wants to get you loose and take advantage of you ;)
 

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I agree OP,another indicator is if she drives to see you.

Doesn't drive to see you = low interest to none.

Drives 5-30 miles = medium interest

Drives 30-200 miles = high interest

Drives 500- 1000 = obsessed
 

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Gentlemen, the stats are in. After my recent 5 year study on romantic texting habits of beautiful women (born 1991-1997) I have observed the single most important statistic in 2017 regarding how much your woman likes you:

The #1 IOI is the number of times she initiates a text conversation per week. That means she is the first one to text that day.
  • Less than 2 initiations per week? Mildly interested.
  • 2 initiations per week? Interested.
  • More than 2 initiations per week? Highly interested.
Simply sit back and watch which girls are texting you. Never initiate more than they do, except to ask them out (especially early in the relationship).

This statistic will change slightly over time. It's a direct barometer of her interest level.
Wrong.The #1 indicator of interest is, always has been and always will be her having sex with you. It's the only one that means ANYTHING.
 

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True for the most part, but not a hardline rule.

The #1 indicator of interest is if she shows up. Women have options. They vote with their feet. Interested women will not flake on dates. They can't flake... They have high interest!

Wrong.The #1 indicator of interest is, always has been and always will be her having sex with you. It's the only one that means ANYTHING.
No sir. Where does that leave drunk sex, rebound sex, and revenge sex?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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True for the most part, but not a hardline rule.

The #1 indicator of interest is if she shows up. Women have options. They vote with their feet. Interested women will not flake on dates. They can't flake... They have high interest!



No sir. Where does that leave drunk sex, rebound sex, and revenge sex?
How many AFCs are having that happen?
 

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The #1 IOI is the number of times she initiates a text conversation per week. That means she is the first one to text that day
Sounds reasonable.
 

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It happens. One of my friends is a certified AFC. I can't tell him anything. He gets lucky every other month or so, despite doing everything wrong.
Have you considered the women might actually be interested in spite of that? Or perhaps they are the 15% of women who actually want that behaviour in a guy?
 

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For an ltr i agree with Neil. But for my own interests I agree with Marmel as that is all that matters to me. Having any kind of relationship with a woman who doesn't put out is a waste of time. They generally make lousy friends. And then if you start doing stuff for them you've become an orbiterr and your testicles will shrivel. If she uses you for sex for a one night stand f****** great. You were a bad boy or intriguing enough to get the tingles. You did your job and got paid well done.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Have you considered the women might actually be interested in spite of that? Or perhaps they are the 15% of women who actually want that behaviour in a guy?
They are interested. But the point is, if you do everything wrong, you still can get lucky. It's just a numbers game. In the long term though, he turns them off. It's a matter of if they like him long enough for him to get some.

No. Women don't desire AFCs. They may settle with them, have kids, get fat, bitter, angry, and leave him. But that's not what they desire.
 

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They are interested. But the point is, if you do everything wrong, you still can get lucky. It's just a numbers game. In the long term though, he turns them off. It's a matter of if they like him long enough for him to get some.

No. Women don't desire AFCs. They may settle with them, have kids, get fat, bitter, angry, and leave him. But that's not what they desire.
I think some do...the ones who like to be in control and have their husbands kisstheir asses
 

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Yeah I got a mate who is text book. Thinks he knows but doesn't. He's a very smart guy and I've been laying the seeds so he will fix himself up quickly. Anyway he moved in with a smart sassy sexy hot chick. Of course then a couple of years of frame push and him decaying happened. And surprise surprise the chick turned into a fat shrew. And for the last year they have broken up live together and he's walking on eggshells and can't bring chicks home. There you go a perfect case study on the beauty of the AFC lifestyle.
 

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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