"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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does she like me?

ToZe

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ok in my french class theres this very hot chick who sits to the left of me. she sits so damn closs to me, closer to me than her male partner (in french, we have partners to practice 101 french with, but shes not my partner). i dont really know if she does like me or not. first of all, she's a very hot blonde preppie, and i'm a brown filipino skater kid. anyways, she always smiles at me (with the eyes smiling too) and we always talk about random ****. also, one time she applied some pink lipstick in front of me (even though it didnt look that good on her) and i read somewhere girls like to put emphasis on their lips to attract others.
ok so the main thing is, one time, like again she sat very closs to me, and then i had to present a french presentation facing the whole class, and i can see her like kicking her foot or shaking her leg and the foot is pointing at me the whole time(oh yea i read that somewhere too) and then i look at her and she has a nice smile, (but i dont remember if i smiled back) and then at the end of the presentation she said good job (she didn't even say good job to her partner).
and another thing i was holding a paper and she wanted to see it so she held it and her elbow was touchin my chest. i was happy.(lol) and one time the teacher told me to go to the front of the class along wit other kids and i didnt go yet, and then the girl im talkin about says "go now" and taps my lower back twice.
so, does she like?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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a brown filipino skater kid

that is all i need to know that no blond girl on this planet will be turned on by you.
 

ToZe

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lol, what!!!
:cry:
dont worry im not the typical filipino, i'm muscular, have a medium nose, and good looking, i look more hawaiian than filipino
 

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ToZe said:
lol, what!!!
:cry:
dont worry im not the typical filipino, i'm muscular, have a medium nose, and good looking, i look more hawaiian than filipino
Sorry man but this is true. White girls simply don't like us brown folks.:down:

It looks like its indian for you/us.
 

ToZe

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man
but in my school, some asians and mexicans are dating hot, white preppies
wait, aldaris, are you a girl btw
oh yeah and plus, i'm 5'9", and filipinos are averagely 5'4" and aldrais says she doesn't like short men
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nightcrawler

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ToZe said:
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but in my school, some asians and mexicans are dating hot, white preppies
wait, aldaris, are you a girl btw
I must've not gotten the memo.

Last time I checked white girls dated alpha, tall latin men, very handsome black men or tall white males (or rather "average" white male...since whites are tall in the first place)

Most white girls settle for the average, 5'10"+ white guy though.

Dating outside your race is tough.
 

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oh yeah. but those kids i was talking about are probably just lucky, cuz its only some asians and mexicans who date them. and that asian kid played guitar in a band in front of the school (but he wasnt even good) so thats probably why he got the girl
but anyways, is my description good? does she like?
 

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Does she like you?Maybe yes Maybe No.We cant really be sure and neither can you for now.

Why not get her number and ask her out?Wouldnt that be the perfect way to find the answer to your question?Next time your beside her,try resting a part of your body on her.If shes comfortable,your in.
 

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Why don't you try talking to her so you can get a better idea.
 

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TWO things.

Firstly, your mind is going on overdrive to find out if this girl is into you or not. It's really not that difficult. If she's into you she'll let you know. Freud said sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. In this case she probably was just applying lipstick. Don't spend so much time analysing all this body language, what are you some kind of robot?

Secondly, the fact that you referred to yourself as "a brown filipino skater kid" inherently implies that you think of yourself as less than her, and that because she is white she's above you and so immediately you are pedestaling and she's going to be turned off by that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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