Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Does revealing interest destroy attraction?

ezekiel25.17

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I can generate attraction in women quite easily but I fear that once I actually reveal my interest, the girl will know that she can have me and lose attraction. After all, people only want what they can't have!

Anyway, I can see two solutions to this dilema and would be greatful if someone would let me know which is most accurate (maybe they both are), anyway here it is:

1. Once a high enough level of attraction has been established you can just ask her out in a straightforward manner and she will respond favourably - it's as simple as that.

2. A woman will lose attraction for you if you ask her out in a straigtforward way because the attraction is based on her thinking that you're not really interested in her. Once she knows for certain that you are interested, you become 'just another chump' and it's game over! This is true even if it seems like she is really attracted to you.

So which is it?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Depends on what type of woman you are dealing with. There is the type that believes EVERY MAN wants her and she is God's gift. Then you have the attractive woman with a lot going for her, who has low confidence/self-esteem. Obviously, you're "One Size Fits All" approach won't work the same way on both types, all the time.

You are starting to see some patterns and predictable behaviors. There is a lot more to each type of woman.
 

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ezekiel25.17 said:
I can generate attraction in women quite easily but I fear that once I actually reveal my interest, the girl will know that she can have me and lose attraction. After all, people only want what they can't have!

Anyway, I can see two solutions to this dilema and would be greatful if someone would let me know which is most accurate (maybe they both are), anyway here it is:

1. Once a high enough level of attraction has been established you can just ask her out in a straightforward manner and she will respond favourably - it's as simple as that.

2. A woman will lose attraction for you if you ask her out in a straigtforward way because the attraction is based on her thinking that you're not really interested in her. Once she knows for certain that you are interested, you become 'just another chump' and it's game over! This is true even if it seems like she is really attracted to you.

So which is it?

It's OK to let a woman know you're interested but also let her know she has to play by your rules. Let her know you can walk away at any time if she starts misbehaving and let her know she's lucky to have you and other women want you too.


When I say "let her know" I don't mean tell her directly. It should be done using indirect communication.
 

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DonGorgon said:
Tell her you like her but dont show it ever... women love inconsistency...
:rockon: Nice one. Guys who 'show' they like girls by buying them sh1t or being a door-mat are a dime a dozen. This is why you do not give girls cake and let them eat it too. They get fat and spoiled on it.

If you like a girl you'll show her in bed - and that's the message she needs to get. This is done with eye contact, body posture... leading her physiologically. Not following her or hanging on her.

Beyond that showing interest really is a complicated process that involves a whole bunch of reading. It's quite easy to tell if you've done it too early... and it's almost impossible to show interest too 'late'.

Ever have a girl wait months for you to approach? If they have interest in you they don't consider all that waiting around.

Make a girl wait for you and she simply doesn't care when you show interest - it will still affect her. Show it too soon and you're done.

If she has no interest level in you then any amount of 'revealing interest' will not help. You might say 'I played my hand too soon' when it's more a case of her getting bored and quitting the table.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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